We have been together for two years. He cheated and when i asked him about it he lied. He promise don the death of our child that i'm all he wants and he will never hurt me again.
2006-11-17 01:10:23 · 16 answers · asked by Honesty 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
fool me once, shame on you....
fool me twice, shame on me....
2006-11-17 01:18:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
So much for promises, I wouldn't believe him at all....he cheated on you what on earth makes you think he would tell the truth????? People do not accidently have their pants fall off and get thrown by an earthquake into bed, c'mon, he cheated. He will hurt you again, every time you think about what he did it is going to hurt you,,,,cheating is the gift that keeps on giving. He probably will do it again.
Why aren't you married if you have a child together?....Apparently he is ready for the responsibility of a child, just not marriage. Heres your answer:....If your child came to you and said that their mate did the same to them, would you say oh....as long as he is sorry then it is okay,,,,,,I bet you would say throw him to the curb....do your self a favor, get out of it now BUT be sure you get a lawyer and make him help in the support of your child...be smart.
2006-11-17 01:27:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion, people make mistakes and most deserve a second chance.
Two questions: Can you forgive AND forget or will you bring this up every time you argue? Is he willing to do whatever it takes to earn back your trust?
My bf cheated once during our first year together. I forgave him and have never thrown it in his face, even in heated disagreements. To regain my trust, he made sure I knew where he was and who he was with all the time. (I didn't ask him to do this.) We've now been together for 9 1/2 years, we have a great relationship, and he hasn't cheated again.
Every situation is different. I don't think it would be a bad idea to give him another chance....but if he does it again, LEAVE.
Good luck
2006-11-17 02:27:52 · answer #3 · answered by Mary L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been through it! Stayed w/ my husband for 11 years knowing he was or had cheated. I can honestly say I had given my marriage 150%!
My advice would be to tell him how this makes you feel towards him now, how you do not trust his feelings or maybe even your own. Never ask him details about the "cheat", that will only hurt and confuse you more. Get to a counselor for yourself an then for the both of you. Find out what brought him to the decision to do this. Remember to NEVER blame yourself! You will never leave your husband if someone tells you to, you are the only person in your shoes. You have a child an owe it to that child to give your marriage 150%, both you and your husband. Good luck and I know exactly how you feel.
2006-11-17 01:34:00 · answer #4 · answered by jpf 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok honey I have a friend who had the same problem you do! Her boyfriend of 3 years (on and off) cheated on her, she took him back but because she did he thought he could keep doing it and she would keep takin him back. Guess what....he's cheated on her 5 times and everytime she has taken him back. They have a crappy relationship. Get rid of the guy! Sooner or later he will cheat on you again and it may turn out he gets the girl pregnant. It will be hard cause you may love him, but just remember one thing. If he is cheating on you and lying to you he must not love you as much as you love him! You can't love someone, and then sleep with someone else! It doesn't work! My advice is to kick the guy to the curb and find another one! You'll be happy when you do!
2006-11-17 01:25:33 · answer #5 · answered by Poor Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would pack my bags and move on. Cheating is unforgiveable in my book because it's disrespectful AND it breaks the commitment between two people instantly. What makes you think he won't do it again? If you stay, it's like enabling him to continue cheating. Your relationship is over and will never be the same. It's time to get out there.
2006-11-17 01:19:17 · answer #6 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well this is all up to you. Personally if Iwas in your situation then I prob wouldn't forgive him. Once a cheater always a cheater! But if you really love him and are sure that he will never do this to you again, then I say why not, but you need to make sure!
2006-11-17 01:18:05 · answer #7 · answered by rach 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So....he cheated on you and then he lied about it. What a sweetie! I would forgive him and then I would dump his sorry A*S*S and let him promise some other woman he won't hurt her! I wouldn't spend one more minute with this loser!
2006-11-17 02:05:36 · answer #8 · answered by missingora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forgiving means FORE_GIVE which refers to loving and giving like you did before he cheated.so if you go ahead and live normally make sure that you don't torment him about it and make sure that you are strong enough to handle the heartache you might suffer in case he does it again.I hope you will be able to make a good decision based on what you are willing to do and stick to it.
2006-11-17 01:21:56 · answer #9 · answered by sherie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you can truly answer this question, we can only offer advice so - Best advice I can give is go with your heart. You also need to keep in mind that whats best for your child. :)
GL Darlin'
2006-11-17 01:19:23 · answer #10 · answered by blueangeleyes1975 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move on definately cause if hes cheating he thinks there is something missing with you
2006-11-17 01:29:30 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋