After a 27 year marriage why does the bf have territorial concerns about the ex-husband?

Answer 1

27 years is a long time,,as far as your b/f is concerned,,he cant realistically catch up,,if you were married for say,,4 years he would have to wait 5 years to be able to know you and he passed the mark you that your husband got to and he may feel secure but,,27,,,start counting,,your boyfriend may or indeed may not gain confidence in your relationship.he will think your husband knows all about you,,,he knows the 'real ' you,,everything you have done,,your husband was a part of,,all the places you talk of,,holidays and the like your husband was there,,friends you have may not like him but loved your husband,,funny stories,chances are your husbands name will be in there somewhere,,it isnt easy starting over but your boyfriend must understand you had a life before him and you are going to talk about it,,what choice do you have other than always thinking,"can i say that or will he get upset",all depends on how emotionally strong he is really doesnt it and after 27 years,,i bet you have seen it all.

Answer 2

Need clarification...

A) You had a 27 year marriage that ended in divorce and YOU have a new BF who is concerned?

or

B) You are in a 27 marriage with a guy (BF) who is concerned about a previous ex-husband of yours.

If the scenario is A -- I can understand this... your BF has been with you for less time than your ex.

If scenario B -- your BF needs a psychologist... and you need to stop referring to him as your BF.

Answer 3

Sounds like the b/f is concerned...since you were married for so long...that just maybe, there are still some feelings left??? And, he wants to keep the ex far.........away

Answer 4

27 years married to you and having conerns about the EX! makes wonder

Answer 5

It may be because the other person is showing signs of unhappiness and since there is already one ex, he may be afraid of becoming ex #2.

Answer 6

The easiest excuse to fight