hi, is there anything to use to make my girlfriend want sex?

Question

we have been together for seven years now, the first five years were great. But these last two years it hasnt been, she always says she tried or doesnt feel like it or doesnt feel well or something. Is there anything she can take to make her want it, anything out there that really works. ive ask her to try and use different things to spice our sex lives up but she doesnt want to. is it normal for a girl not to want to finger herself or use vibrators etc.

i dont pressure her, we have talked about it once and she wasnt interesed, so i left it, i then thought it was the right time to bring it up, which must have been about a year later, she seems to think its the pill, i know that she really love me, she shows me all the time. i know that she enjoys sex when we do. ive tried romanic nights out, suppricing her, taking her out for a nice meal, cooking a meal, i just want to have sex once a while, even once a month (Any woman please be honest, is once a month too much? please be honest?)

Answer 1

How about less pressure from you? Many times women lose appreciation for sex when the "spark" has faded and their partner just becomes a horny jerk who sees her as a recepticle for his own self-gratification. If you really care about her, you'll stop trying to get her into the sack and take her to a nice restaurant, enjoy a romantic getaway, be attentive and a good listener. Be the man she fell in love with in the first place.

Answer 2

I think the problem may not be your girlfriend, but how you are approaching the whole thing. You question tells a lot..."...to make my girlfriend want sex?" You are wanting to control her emotional state and artificially make her want it and that may in fact be the root of your problem. You need to take care of her emotional needs and I am willing to bet that she feels you are neglecting them. You have been together with her for seven years now, so you should know her pretty well. Stop trying to make her horny the way you would get horny, that is a big mistake guys make all the time. Why don't you try sending her flowers to her work with a little note that just says "I'm just thinking about you." and be sure to sign your name to it. Get home before she does, run her a bath, fix her dinner, and I am sure you can come up with things that will make her realise that you are just thinking about her and wanting to make sure she is taken care of. What ever you do, do not expect or even ask for sex, just find out what she needs, what may be bothering her, forget the sex. She may think you have flipped your lid, but show your concern for her and how she is doing. It may not happen today, tomorrow or even in the next week, but she will come around and want to make love to you, because she will begin to feel important to you, like you value her, that you listen and pay attention. That is important and when women feel that it is all just about sex, that drive tends to slow and eventually stop. The key is, do not stop once she starts to show interest in sex again, keep it up and really take care of her.

Answer 3

she obviously requires something more sensual than sexual to get her going. Romance is all you need. Go for a meal, but arrange the place so that when you come back there will be lit candles everywhere and rose petals leading upto the bedroom. Dont have dessert at the restaurant and buy something darish for dessert that you can share on the way up to the bedroom.

If this don't work she's having an affair.

Answer 4

wow mate ease off alittle some girls think that there is more to a relationship than sex wine her and dine her make her feel special get a girlie film or take her out and have fun with out saying the sex word at any moment through the night tell her you love her more give it some time then if that really does not work then i think you will need to sit down with her and have a no pressure honest chat to find out if there is anything wrong

Answer 5

Perhaps book a night out at a hotel, have a lovely romantic meal and decorate the room with some candles and soft music. Buy some lovely massage oils and just get used to touching first before you move in for the sex. Sometimes us girls just need to be showed some affection.. Take it one step at a time .... Show her you love and want her ...

Answer 6

A gun, A sharp blade or just threaten physical violence !

Only joking, but seriously have you tried everything ? what about wearing a batman outfit and sticking a banana up your A*** .

Go on do it Im sure she'll love it set the scene by setting a table for two light some candles and pretend that you have cooked an amazing meal. Then just as she thinks you about to serve dinner sneak off get changed, ram the banana up and storm through the door.

She well be over you like a rash !!! no need to Thank me just pass the info on to the next needy gent

Answer 7

Maybe she needs to feel sexy.....make her feel desirable...make her realise that she turns you on.....additionall, as i have no idea what you look like....have you let yourself slip over the years? Go get groomed...make her see the man she fell in love with.

other things that can affect your libido include fatty food....saturated fats and more impotantly trans-fat are prooven to drop drive.

good quality chocolate...so none of that high street cr@p, go to a chocolatier is good

and contrary to popular belief the smell of fresh fresh sweat (not the smelly stuff from a ful days work...but the fresh from doing something just that second active) Hormones and all that jazz.

Last but not least ovulation cycle does (Yes it does) have an effect....women are more likely to want a fling with alpha male at peak of cycle then get cuddly with a baby face after the peak in cycle....endless research shows this but being PC usually makes this sort of statement seem offensive...i appologise to all offended!

Answer 8

i dont quite know to be honest. me and husband can go weeks sometimes without doing it if we both are really busy - and be completely normal about it but as long as one of us doesnt feel like it, the other one understands.

but if it is getting a long term issue, and her sex drive is nearing to nothing, then its advisable to see gp. maybe the pill isnt suiting her.

i suggest you try to stop the pill and start condoms, i know its a bit of a headache for you, but if it was the hormones, that should solve it

i still recommend you two visit your gp (together) after discussing with each other, and maybe the gp can advise better if it is the pill that could be causing it

go to www.bbc.co.uk and click on relations and then sexual advise

lot of good info on it - including what to do if one of you loose sex drive.

good luck and nice to see that you love her so much ! shes a lucky woman :-)

Answer 9

Have you considered perhaps you are the problem? Try read ing a book on how to improve your technique, which should include being romantic without whining for sex. Bring her flowers, take her out for a romantic dinner, quit hounding her like a buck in rutting season.

Answer 10

Maybe you should try to get to know one another again you appear to be drifting apart. Take her out more often and get her totally sozzled and and get sozzled yourself but make sure you return to be the man you used to be. If she is getting used to masturbating there could be problems for both of you. She may be on the turn see if she is seeing any of her female freinds to often if she is put a stop to it as quick as possible. If she is on the turn and carries on through you are in for big time trouble. Sought things out NOW.