m muslim n he is hindu,after his convert,v did nikah but his parents doesnt know,his parents wont except me?

Question

dats y i never disclose about my nikah.. v both live seperate since7 years n v love each other very much...!he is only son,In dis period my husband did marriage wid hindu girl by forcing his parents n relatives! but he gave divorce her,i dont know y life is taking my exam,i talk only one time wid them but his parents gave me threats,wat shud i do,which step shud i take for his parents,how his parents except me happpily? but i cant convert myself into hindu...!

Answer 1

Its none of your fault but your husband he should have courage to disclose your real identity to his parents and tell them that you are his real wife. He has already committed bigamy but it was your good self that you did not take action against him. Mind you converting to another religion for the purpose of marriage and again marring second time has been taken seriously by SC of India. Tell him to now mend himself take you as his wife and lead a decent married life with you. His parents can not do any harm to you you can make police complaint regarding their threats. Tell him to do as I told you or give you divorce so that you can be free to lead a free tension free life.

Answer 2

You can try anything you want, but things will change only when our fate changes. Both you and your husband were forced to hide your respective religions. That's a bad situation to be in. I don;t know what kind of pressures both of you were put in to the extent of having to hide tings from your parents. If you hid things because both of you were scared, then don;t worry, you were just being humans. The situation and both our natures made you act in certain ways.

However, past is past. Somehow, both of you are still together. Both of you must stop hiding things if possible or must together find a way to live together happily. If you think that both you and your husband's parents will never agree, then try to live somewhere else but keep in contact through mails and send some money if you can. If they can;t accept life, then that's their problem.

Both of you must be financially and emotionally stable to make this decision. There's no point in worrying since 7 years have passed. Are you both going to wait for another 50 years ? Don't change religion just to solve a problem. If you do that, don;t be suprised that you will face hardship until you realise that there is a higher higher power. Both hindus and muslims believe that. So, there's no point in changing religion. Just pray and plan with your husband on how to either live on your own selves or to gain your in-law's acceptance or live seperated until you both die.

Tell your husband not to just marry someone and divorce them at will. It's a sin. Someone else's life is affected. Why should someone else suffer because of the both of you. Maybe that's why both of you are suffering. Maybe its the law of karma working. I don;t know. It's just my opinion.

So, just try not to hide important things anymore, past is past, plan with your husband about the future and pray hard that it works. Try your best to look forward to the future. Practice makes perfect. God will show you the way. How soon is a matter of how hard you pray. He will show you a way or else how would you know what to plan ?

If God doesn't show you the way, try harder if you really want the life you desire. BUt your intentions must be honest and fair.

good luck dude.

Answer 3

You have taken a bold step,but now you two must make sure that somehow you get a legal certificate of you marriage that is submissible in a court of law (as I don't know wether your nikah will hold good in court).this will give you protection from police cases etc. & law will be on your side (theoritically atleast).then ask your man to find a job/steady & separate source of income ( if he dosen't already have one) so that if his/your parents don't accept your marriage after all ,you two can start a new life
together in some safer place/other city
But mind it only you two will have to face any/all consequences of you actions,so it will be better if you two have a real discussion first & prapare yourselves to BE THERE WHEN YOU PARTNER NEEDS YOU.
lastly (though 7 yrs. is a long time but)remember the age old saying "Haste makes Waste"
May GOD/ISHWAR/ALLAH be by your side

Answer 4

Its impossible for U to be get accepted by their parents U must be converted into a Hindu or He must convert himself as a Muslim and He must have the Capablity to oppose their parents but its not GOOD because the parents or the person who take all the pain to make us as a person

Answer 5

thats a very hard situation...
pls dont let anyone let you be converted, if what you are is the way they had seen you, then they cant do antything to make you follow their religion... your husband must accept this, coz you are real, the reality is you cannot convert and exchange your belief just because you have to obey them.
have an honest and intimate talk with your husband, tell him what you feel, dont be afraid, if he really loves you he will undestand,,, love wont ever have religion, love wont have shapes and beauty, love is not of material, or of dignity sake,.. it is patient, real, true and eternal.
if he insist with his family for the sake of convert... pls, do not live a life in the hand of his demand and in the hands of his mom's and family's likeness... you are not a puppet... it doesnt mean we are women that we undergo the mens tradition, surrendering ours..
we have our own feet, we can stand against them, no one can take away your belief. its not over yet..
and no one can rule your life but only you.
Good luck my friend.

Answer 6

humm u can't convert urself hindu but u wish 2live life with a hindu boy & u have converted him a muslim, great how shelfish u are! piya if u really love him then u can convert for him, if yes then u really love him and ask him that if u convert then his parents will accept u or not ....just ask him then take a decision..

Answer 7

i would not have have answered your question but it made me a little angry so i have to

OK - so he converts to muslim for you but but of course, you cant convert to hindu for him can you ?! look at your own words !! that is sooooo petty

this is such a sick question i cant believe your hypocricy and cowardice.

you are ruining your life, his life, his parents life and i feel the most for that girl he married and divorced - wat was her fault ?

you both are ruining lives, if you two really love each other, then stop this melo drama, and just leave your homes and go away together somewhere and start your own life, instead of causing grief and pain to everyone.

Answer 8

The Prophets and messengers are loose from sin till now and after the message. in the event that they do something then that's an inward command. that's the recognize-how of maximum individuals. somebody who says that a prophet could make a mistake or a considerable sin should not be accompanied and his opinion to be taken as suspect.

Answer 9

Being a muslim girl apart from every thing, the islamic obligations are fullfilled. He cannot just stay quiet and has to declare that he has changed the religion. Apart from emotional feelings we cannot keep aside our religious obligations. You must convince him to evolve some viable solution which must be acceptable to both of you.

Answer 10

did u get ur marriage registered? if u both are working get transfered to other distant place and live together. Or make it socialize and live together as u both got married. Take police protection.