I have this friend, she doesnt have a green card. so im thinking about marrying her so she can get a green card and stay in the USA. the problem is that we went out before in the past.dated ,messed around and stuff. i now have a girlfriend and she hates my friend. What do you think I should do?
2006-11-17 00:43:41 · 30 answers · asked by CuriousJorge07 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Sounds like you're trying to be a good friend. However, I think you should not sacrifice your life and your current relationship to help out this friend. There is too much history. That being said...if you still have romantic feelings for her and want to be with her..then maybe you should break up with your girlfriend first. Also, what are your religious views toward marriage. I've known of this happening before, and the people end up with happy and loving marriages. GOod luck.
2006-11-17 00:52:22 · answer #1 · answered by trevnme 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not marry a person you do not love. Friendship alone, is not enough to build a marriage and life upon. Marriage must be built on love, friendship and respect. From the way you talk, you only have one of three. It would be better for her to find someone who loves & respects her to marry. A green card, is not love, respect or friendship.
Did you know that it is illegal to marry someone just to get them into this country and then get divorced? You could spend some serious time in prison for what she's asking.
2006-11-17 08:54:17 · answer #2 · answered by c.s. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
THE BIG QUESTION TO YOU IS: DO YOU LOVE YOUR GIRLFRIEND? if you do dont marry your friend. the is a lot to a relationship than "a green card".the most important factor of marriage is love then come's honesty,respect e.t.c. when getting married to someone GOD unite's both souls together and without GOD's blessing the is apsolutly nothing that is going to work out.just take a moment and turn the situation around!!! you can emagine the hurt that you are going to impose in your girlfriends heart, and that can result to future disbelive in love.please think clearly before making this decision.
2006-11-17 09:37:23 · answer #3 · answered by Divalicous25 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you shouldn't marry her just so she can stay in the USA. Marriage is based on love. I know you want to help your friend but it wouldn't be fair to you or your girlfriend. If i was your girlfriend i wouldn't hang around while you married someone else no matter what the reason is. I hope it all works out for you and your friend.
2006-11-17 08:51:59 · answer #4 · answered by Darcee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look man I'm gon tell u this by expirience.... merriing sum1 just to give her a green card it can be very difficult... because u have to show proof that that merriage is legit, in other words that is an act of love... they will ask you and her in separate rooms very intimate questions,... if u guys fail or anything goes wrong u'll be in a lot of trouble and she'll be deported... I mean don't get me wrong is nice of u to try to help a homie out u know.... but you may be lookin for at minimum of 3 yrs that u have to be with this woman b4 u can actually make a life with sum u love or want to be with, plus u have a girlfriend so in the best of interest of ur relationship with ur girlfriend and yours and your friend I don't think u should do it.... Plus the laws now days are waaay more harder than 10 years or 20 years b4 so I say even though u want to help a friend out if your not willin to COMMIT to this woman til the process is completed don't do it...
Save your self the trouble.... believe me u don't want to go thur there like that.
Imagine living with sum1 for at least three years U have to show proof that u guys r living together, like income tax forms... pics... and one of the biggest form of proof of a legit merriage a baby ( even though is not a a must, but it reely helps), then maybe in a year u want to get merried with sum1 u reely luv, but u can't because u are already merried, or maybe the process takes more than 3 years. so u consider if u willin to go all the way.!!
I Hope this helps!
2006-11-17 09:02:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you marry someone just for a green card you should know it takes time for them to get it .I know a girl who married a guy from Italy whom she knew only a couple weeks and if worked out great for them but everyone is different . It did take like 3 or 4 yrs to get his green card though.
2006-11-17 09:02:57 · answer #6 · answered by IT'S JUST ME ! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just dont marry for green cards, man. It should be for love and for life.
Have you even considered how your girlfriend feels about this?
Your friend needs to solve her own problems.
2006-11-17 08:54:49 · answer #7 · answered by LL 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you help her get a green card instead? Why would you enter into a marriage that is not based on love? Please don't make that stupid mistake. These marriages have happened for years and they usually are found out for what they really are. She will still need to apply for citizenship the LEGAL way. You will only be hurting her, yourself and your girlfriend in the long run. Don't do it.
2006-11-17 08:51:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only reason to marry is for true love. You would be making a huge mistake to marry someone to get them a green card. I have seen it several times and it never works, always causes unneeded pain.
2006-11-17 08:50:00 · answer #9 · answered by Patti T 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would steer clear of this one. You can get into a lot of trouble and be investigated etc - it's a massive thing and not to be done unless you want to marry this person. Plus it will cause huge problems with your current relationship. It's not worth messing up your life over. Do you really want to get involved with all the checks and digging about in your personal life? You'll have to lie like hell and will get caught and it will all go wrong. totally not worth it unles you really love the person and want to marry them anyway.
2006-11-17 08:50:10 · answer #10 · answered by minotaur 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋