I love my sister,but i love her husband too.I get jealos when their together,and sometimes i feel like killing her.So please help,i don't want to do something that i'll regret.
2006-11-17 00:37:52 · 27 answers · asked by ~misZ khImMi bHeibi~ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Is it that your really in love with him, or do feel like your missing out in your life, and want that love your sister has found. Is it that you feel a comfort in him that your missing in your life? You should never betray your sister like that over something that will never become anything than you sitting somewhere crying because he is not leaving your sister for you. If he is happy, and content, he will not leave. You will not be betraying only your sister but also yourself. You are I'm sure a wonderful person that has alot of good qualities, that someone single will cherish for what all they are worth. Not by a married man. And your sisters husband.
Weigh the situation out before you decide to wreck a whole lot of lives. Does he flirt back? Does he feel the same? Are you mistaking his kindness for something else?????
Do not hurt yourself or anyone else for something that is not felt on both sides!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Good luck to you, and please think before you act.
DAPHNE
2006-11-17 01:57:29 · answer #1 · answered by Daphne F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you think you love him? Has he given you any reason to think he might love you too? If so then it shows poor character in him. If it is simply a fantasy in your head, you better stop and consider the cost. Our dreams are sweeter than real life because in our fantasy we are in control. Outside in the real world, things happen that we can not change. If you made a play for your brother in law, you would lose a sister and perhaps more family members. Nothing is greater than family. You will experience a loss you can't comprehend if you throw your sister away for this man. If you have an affair with him, you are setting yourself up for hurt. I am sure he is not as wonderful as you imagine him to be. Sometimes it's simply the idea of the chase that excites us. There are plenty of other unattached guys out there. Get your eyes off of your bil and find a man of your own. You will be happier for it.
2006-11-17 08:47:48 · answer #2 · answered by Catie 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Try to spend time away from them. Get involved in activities that will take your mind off of him. Your sister is married to this man and not you, afterall how would you feel if you married a man and your sister wanted him for her self? Remember that even though you have feelings for him so does your sister; her feelings were so intense that she married the guy. As a sister exercise some self control and abstain from furthering your feelings, she is your sister and unless you want to end up on a talk show talking about it (in a negative way), and possibly ruining your relationship with your sister for a long time, please put the thought of having your sisters man out of your head. This man is off limits for you; there are plenty other men you could pursue.
Hope this helps
2006-11-17 08:51:52 · answer #3 · answered by dymps 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What was the relationship you had with your sister growing up? Were you competitive or jealous of each other as children/teens? If that was the case you need to stop with the "I want what she has" syndrome before everyones lives become messed up.
You need to get a life and stay the hell away from this man who happens to be your brother-in-law! If you love your sister like you say you do you would never do anything to hurt her. Find someone who's available before you ruin your relationship with your sister and her marriage.
2006-11-17 08:56:17 · answer #4 · answered by dirkthesmirk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you have is something that is nice and and you do not want to do anything to ruin it because you look at there relationship and he is good to her and your sister may not treat him far all the time but then again you know your sister all to well. You look at him like why can't I have a guy like him and you like the way he is. You can enjoy him for life and he is family. I had a crush On my sister in law and she was a flirt also but she is still married to my brother and she is get you too will do the same
2006-11-17 08:49:33 · answer #5 · answered by isitreal1963 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should be happy your sister found someone that others really care for. He is now your Brother-in-law. Treat him as a brother. If you think it will be that hard to keep the relationship as in laws then you should put a little distance between you and him. Maybe you should talk to your sister about it and then you will have help maintaining the relationship that it should be.
2006-11-17 08:49:00 · answer #6 · answered by roppster 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your sister is your blood and the love of a sister comes FIRST. You should RESPECT HER and that means she's got that man - they promised themselves to each other. NEVER NEVER NEVER screw over someone dear to you because of a MAN. You may not see it now, but you'll regret it!! It won't last, either and you'll lose your sister, too. You will lose a man the same way you get one. If he leaves her for you, he'll leave you for someone else later because he knows it can happen. Trust me - stay away from him and find someone single PLEASE.
2006-11-17 09:43:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You seem to have some serious issues that you need to seek psychiatric help for. Wanting to kill your sister to get her husband because you think you are in love with him is just so wrong, and besides how wrong it is, you wouldn't be with him because he would hate you for killing his wife and you would be in jail for doing it. Please see a doctor before you really screw up your life and the lives of others.
2006-11-17 08:54:11 · answer #8 · answered by Ash 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will lose way more than you will ever get back if you do anything to show your feelings. This is wrong on so many levels. Just go out and find your own man. There are so many. Your just wanting something you can't have.
2006-11-17 08:47:59 · answer #9 · answered by sideways 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
if you love your sister,then you wouldn't be considering murdering her,come on now get real,a man who is taken is not worth all this fuss,he chose your SISTER not you and you need to move on and find your own man to be obsessive about...please seek out a therapist because honey you need help anyone in their right mind WOULD NOT consider killing anyone let alone their OWN sister over a man
2006-11-17 09:00:50 · answer #10 · answered by onyxpryzm 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋