I have been married with my hubby for more than 6 ys. And I dont love him. Till i met this guy, and i am pregnant by him now..should i leave hubby and start new life with my new man? but my hubby doesnt want to get divorce. I feel guilty when i see into his face. and my new man wanna have a family with me..what should i do?
2006-11-16 22:33:56 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If you didn't love him you should have left him before you got pregnant. He must be hurting.
2006-11-16 22:42:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is rather complicated to say the least . you probably shouldn't have married but perhaps peer pressure's put you on the spot . anyhow you will seriously have to make a decision which way you want to go . hubby might be saying he doesn't want a divorce now but wait till the kid comes along ; then what ?? he may become violent through jealousy or whatever because this is not his son/daughter . and what about the other bloke -- the father --- how comfortable does this situation sit with him ??
you had better sort it out for your own peace of mind and that of your child's future ; which is probably the most important thing , and by far a , bigger challenge for the future .
sort it out Missy --- quick smart . good luck .
2006-11-16 22:49:41 · answer #2 · answered by bill g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to ask yourself "did I love him to start?" there are women and men everyday getting into relationships with someone who is married. Now that life has been created that will put a financial wrench in the gears. i am not trashing you but, in light of this you have committed adultery and in the eyes of a judge, that can cost you alot more than just a marriage. I think you need to sit him down and let him know how you feel with the marriage and about the other man in your life. Also it is very important he knows about the situation that is at hand.
no matter how much you do or dont love some one, you should have at least the adult respect to tell him the truth. It is the hardest thing to swallow but in the end you wont have to worry about being miserable. Then again it is your decision and you will rise to the sunlight with it everyday. The truth is something everyone is entitled to. It is what sets us free.
2006-11-16 22:47:35 · answer #3 · answered by Sinister Minister 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Ida,
you are in a very bad Situation!What would be the best for your Child that you are going to have.Your Husband now will never get over what you did,if I was you I get divorced,but take it slow with the new Man,don't make the same mistake again,live by yourself for a while and start slow.Ks
2006-11-19 17:36:17 · answer #4 · answered by karl s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best possible way to get out of this situation is take a divorce and settle down with the person whom u r pregnant with otherwise you'll land up in all kinds of problems.to begin with after 6 yrs of marriage it will be difficult to explain yr spouse about pregnancy and then DNA TESTS and yr lover trying to meet his progeny if ever he comes to know which he will as he wants a family and can ruin your stable life.
2006-11-16 22:53:21 · answer #5 · answered by shaikhudude 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its awful that youve cheated on him insted of just leaving him and finding someone else... An if you dont like him, why did you sleep with him an get pregnant in the first place.. Ahh you need to leave him because he deserves better than you
2006-11-16 22:44:02 · answer #6 · answered by ohio_gurl042 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's such a shame people force themselves to stay together when it obviously isn;t working out. Be bold, come out clean, tell your husband and break up. It would be worse to continue living this lie. Even if he does not want a divorce, there is nothing stopping you from physically moving out and going to stay somewhere else.
2006-11-16 22:46:36 · answer #7 · answered by zymzyv 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should talk with your hubby... and tell him the divorce is the best thing for both of you... try to explain the real situacion... the love is over and nothing is gona chance the relationship... so good luck
2006-11-16 23:18:58 · answer #8 · answered by Coyote : - ) 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now thats what i call a complicated scenario. First you marry someone you dont love then go ahead and cheat on them. Dont you think that by not loving your husband you are already treating him unfairly,
2006-11-16 22:51:27 · answer #9 · answered by Sammo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Suffer and live with it. You created a lie now you have to live with the consequences. You deserve what u get!!!
2006-11-16 22:42:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋