i have 2 person in my life and one person is from 7 years back and second one is with me since 1 year back so i just want to know that what points will help me to figure out that who is most important for me in my life because i am confused with these 2 person.
2006-11-16 22:03:57 · 26 answers · asked by Sarita k 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
toss-up.....this s a way...
well,,,You dont need cancel one of them...its possible to go on with both of them....
if you want to desire gf with one,,,you need to think which one sexy....Thats all....
2006-11-16 22:09:59 · answer #1 · answered by Peace 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
For 7 yrs you & person “A” were comfortable. Things were going on & there was no confusion. Then one year back a new person “B” enters. This means that your 7 yrs relationship with “A” left something to be desired. There was a gap. Because of this gap “B” could enter. Now you have to decide how big was the gap & how important in your life is the size of the gap. If the gap is very tiny then throw “B” out & seal the gap forever. If the gap is huge & not worth repairing, throw “A” out and build a new relationship with “B.” Hopefully with no gaps. Best of luck !!!
2006-11-16 23:38:37 · answer #2 · answered by the Tramp 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would stay with the one that you can see yourself with in the future. you two broke up for some reason, and yes, people change, but if it was for something like cheating i wouldn't give it another chance. once a cheater always a cheater. this new person deserves a chance with you. it will be impossible to pick up a new relationship with the other person, 7 years is a long time (so is 2) and you can't pick up where you left off. you have to start over. is it worth it? or do you see yourselves breaking up again? all at the expense of the person you are seeing now? cuz that is not fair to them and don't expect them to wait for you while you see whether or not you want to be with the person from 7 years ago.
2006-11-16 23:38:01 · answer #3 · answered by pikachu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out a diary and write down all the good and bad qualities of both the persons. Tick things you like and hate most about them. Review why you started relationship with another person even though you already had a person in your life for 6 years! Perhaps you were looking for just a change, which could be a dangerous way to live a life and detrimental for your marital relations later. Once you will go through all of this, you will find the answer yourself.
2006-11-16 22:10:58 · answer #4 · answered by Smriti 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am guessing you are in your late teens or early twenties, in which case seven years ago must have been in middle or high school. Relationships in that time are difficult and riddled with all sorts of drama. People change in seven years, she/he is probably not the same person you knew so long ago.
I know that three years ago, I was definately not the same person I am today. I have different tastes, my moods are different, and my general understanding of life has changed some of my mindsets. Don't ruin a new relationship to pick up an old one with someone you might not know anymore. What if the person you knew from long ago has changed so much that you couldn't see yourself spending serious time with them? What if your relationship long ago ended for a reason that they didn't tell you... or that you didn't tell them.
Don't give up on this new person just because an old friend comes back into the picture, there is a good chance that you will regret it. Of course, I don't know specifics. I would have to know your respective ages and the difference in relationships and the experiences in between in order to give you a more accurate pieces of advice.
2006-11-16 22:11:52 · answer #5 · answered by got_chii 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you are married, get some counseling and try to work out your marriage if it is at all possible! If you have children triangles can be very destructive in a child's life.
If you are not married, look at the pros and cons of each relationship. It may help to draw columns on different pages for each relationship.
Look at what you bring to the table with each person and what each person brings to the table with you.
Look for positive and negative things in each case.
Which relationship promises the most health in the future?
Being involved in two relationships is a very unhealthy and stressful thing if you are speaking of romantic relationships. Ask yourself how you got involved in a triangle in the first place and go from there.
If you are still confused, get some professional help. If you can't afford professional help, there is free help out there. There are even places online that may be able to help you.
Best wishes to you.
2006-11-16 22:26:51 · answer #6 · answered by Jael 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am assuming you are involved with two people. If they know about each other (the 2 persons) and you have been honest with both of them and those relationships are working,. why are you confused. You don't need to make a choice. You don't need to figure out the most important person in your life, chances are they are both important.
Then again, if they don't know about each other, tell them, they will figure it out for you.
2006-11-16 22:13:17 · answer #7 · answered by jryanwinterhaven 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You create your own confusion. You have one person 7 years back without confusion. But you purposely allowed another person to come into your life 1 year back to confuse your life.
My answer: Take the person who came into your life later to confuse you, and you will slowly be sober.
2006-11-16 22:24:40 · answer #8 · answered by AH HA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, we sound like were in the same boat.as a matter of coincidence my situation involes a person who has been married for 7yrs,if this is YOU, I WILL ALWAYS LOVE YOU,BUT WE CANT BABY, NOT IN THIS LIFETIME MAYBE ANOTHERONE . and my response to this very difficult question is go with the one with longevity. i figured out in life that some people meet for a particular reason, and when its accomplished its time to leave the situation. it can be hard, but the other person involed doesnt deserve to lose you over that. pick the one that loves you most. always. in my situation, im staying where im at. with my loving husband. IT HURTS, BUT REMEMBER THE GOOD TIMES WITH THEM. STAY WHERE YOUR AT?.
2006-11-16 22:14:23 · answer #9 · answered by lovely 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you are taking on more than you can handle. I think it is possible to be attracted to several different people at the same time and lust can be a terrible dilemma. For this reason I would consider letting one go and deciding your fate with the other. There is nothing wrong with rejecting both of them.
2006-11-16 22:13:13 · answer #10 · answered by snowstalker06 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are confused na think abt some points you can judge them.
1. Who cares u
2. Who are happy, when you are happy and feel sad , when ur sad.
3. The person who can do anything for you
4. The person who take your suggestion abt his life
5. Who tells you his secrets
6. Who tells you right path in ur life
2006-11-16 22:56:58 · answer #11 · answered by jsnm 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋