married 27 yrs, she had sex with my brother . my 2nd son is not mine. she was having sex with guys from the net, a guy down the street. a guy a work and me on the weekends. she lies about everything. I love her so much but I dont think I can get past this.
2006-11-16 21:57:44 · 24 answers · asked by steve k 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Come on guy!!!!... Sounds to me like your mad and you have no idea what your talking about and you want to get some support for people you don't even know on this site.
What has she told you...? If this is really true and not just in your head, why are you still there? And don't tell me it's because you love her. Just because you love someone doesn't mean you have to put up with their crap and she just thinks of you as just a backup ****.
If this is for real, leave. Even if it isn't real, leave. Your head is so screwed up you couldn't think straight abut her anyway. Just leave.
2006-11-16 23:02:31 · answer #1 · answered by jryanwinterhaven 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know 27 years you must be so use to having her in your life and at this point your all worn out with misery. Life is to short and making a good decision is healthier for you. I understand it will be difficult to be alone when you decide to leave the wife. Ask her if she wants her freedom to do whatever she wants so you can at least find peace at last... who knows probably there is a lady out there somewhere waiting for you. Everyone deserves a honest person in there life at some point!... Maybe you think you love her...maybe you are use to having her in your life. Your resentments are so deep and it does sound like you wont get over it. Might as well just move on without her and infidality..If i were you i would file for divorce and she already knows why so im sure she wouldnt give you much hassle.
2006-11-17 08:22:09 · answer #2 · answered by Damzel in distrust 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If there are still emotions between the both of you, hate or love, do not get a divorce because all you'll want is revenge. If you guys can sit down and have a desent conversation about what is going on then ok, talk about getting a divorce. If you start to argue walk away and try again until you come to a decision TOGETHER! good luck!
2006-11-17 06:09:06 · answer #3 · answered by vetsmom_rgv 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is serious acts of fornication, incest, adulterous acts and telling lies. Under the ancient law, the person who committed all these offences has to be stoned to death and the body laid waste at the street.
The case is too stinking. Got to hold my breathe, cannot answer your question. If you still can breath, then better for you to decide the answer.
2006-11-17 06:39:18 · answer #4 · answered by AH HA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you continue to be a doormat for her? No woman or man is worth that. I don't know how you could get past any of this. Get some self esteem and move on and find someone that will truly love you and RESPECT you. Good luck
2006-11-17 06:09:56 · answer #5 · answered by kelsey 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would have filed for divorce after finding out about the first guy. I wouldn't have given her a chance to cheat on me again.
2006-11-17 06:05:37 · answer #6 · answered by sweet.pjs1 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She definitely has some problems, and knowing that, she will not make you happy. She cannot change overnight. Apparently if she had one shred of decency left and cared about you, she at least wouldn't lie about it, but she does...get a divorce. She isn't worth all this struggle.
2006-11-17 07:47:04 · answer #7 · answered by the_memory_of_ashes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's too much to try and forgive.. The brother is the biggest betrayal. It's completely something you have to decide on yourself. Don't do it out of anger do it because you have to live with the decision
2006-11-17 06:05:18 · answer #8 · answered by uknowme 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
she knows that you love her thats why she is doing this to you. the bible says that the only grounds for divorce is adultry. she has commited it more than once. follow the laws of the good book and you will be happy. much happier. trust me i am. and to get over the hurt spend time with YOUR children not other peoples children.
2006-11-17 08:36:40 · answer #9 · answered by thshwilliams 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love her then council her that she must start thinking seriously about the relationship. i suppose divorce should be the last resort. We must start thinking of making the marriage than breaking the same.
2006-11-17 08:16:31 · answer #10 · answered by Paassion 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋