what should i do?

Question

i have a japanesse girlfriend living in tokyo...she ask me if she can work at a club which she talk and drink with geust....
1.is it a safe job?
2.is sexual activities required?
3.can she refuse if shes offered to go out or drink?
4.are most clubs in japan like these?

note any additional details if u prefer....thank u so much....i love japanesse people....

Answer 1

Never done it, but based on various news articles;
1. They're usually safe enough while on the premises.
2. If the 'client' demands it, the boss might pressurise her to accept the advances.
3. They are often (maybe always) OBLIGED to go on 'dates' with clients. I gather that it's either specified, or implied, in the contract. If so, and she refuses, she'll be fired.
4. No! Of course not! People vary a lot, and not just between countries! Some men want to be pandered to and flattered by a woman who isn't their wife, but many don't! And think about it logically - if ALL clubs were like that, where would all the women go on their night out????
; )

If you really want to find out whether the prospective boss wants his 'girls' to prostitute themselves, get your girlfriend to talk to some of the girls who already work there. If she can speak to them without the boss around, they'll tell her whether there's any pressure to 'date' clients, and whether the boss wants them to sleep with the clients. It's like 'hostessing' anywhere else in the world, some bosses treat it like 'legalised' prostitution, others prefer it if the 'girls' do NOT sleep with clients, but leave it up to them to make up their own mind.

Answer 2

Actually, the average hostess bar is the last place I would go looking for sex. It's most likely no big deal-it depends on the club. There are clubs where the girls go out with customers, typically it's the regulars take their favorite girls out to dinner before the club opens and then escort them to work. That way the place has clientle from the time the club opens. I can't really tell you very much without knowing what type of hostess joint it is-but the majority are on the up and up.

Answer 3

There are two types of bars which your girlfriend is probably interested in working at, hostess and kyabakura (pronounce keey-ba-kuu-ra).

Traditionally, hostess bars are more upscale and have older (25-40) women working there. Absolutely no sex, touching or inappropriate behavior is allowed in the bar. Most customers only want to chat and have a drink with a beautiful woman, away from the wife.

After the bar closes, customers want to continue drinking and chatting with the women and will ask them to have drinks or a late dinner. Women can always say no but this is how they build clientele and earn more money because the customer will return and request that girl. It's a complicated business where the girl earns a portion of the total drink sales and there's an extra charge to request the girl.

Most women will never sleep or do anything with their customers, aside from drink and eat, because it's not how things work. Hard to believe but most of these men only want to drink and talk with someone and not have sex.

Good luck and trust your girl!

Answer 4

Is she asking your permission?
I can see that you are concerned but there are a few things for you to consider as well.
If you say NO - how will that affect her? Will this job be her only means of income? If so - you might not have achoice in the matter. Discuss it with her and see how she feels about working there. She is the one who needs to know under what conditions she will be working under.

One solution is to find someone from Japan near where you live and ask them about the place your girlfriend will be working. They might know more about that type of club.

All the best.

Answer 5

As for 3.

Most girls have to, are obliged, to call their clients in the day time and ask having dinner together. After the dinner, she brings her client to the club. This is called "Dohan".
http://akasenkuiki.homestead.com/files/hostess.html
The club counts how many times she have successed the "Dohan" every month, and give her bonus according to her score.
In some budget clubs, the club allow the customers touch the girls body, thigh, etc.