Mother-in-law is putting hidden cameras in my home. I have tried telling my husband.But he want listen to me.?

Question

I have tried to catch her by putting my own cameras out.But she watches everything that i do in my own home. I have had to live this way for 5 years. At first i could not figure out how she knew everything i did .and about 6 months ago i hired a private detective to come in to my home and they are the ones that told me that i had hidden cameras in my home and thay showed me ware thay were. When i paint over my walls or take the cameras out she puts more up.I have changed the lockes on the doors and even put sticks in the windows.But she will cut out the wall by the doors and get in that way to get ower keys everytime i cant stay up all night and all day to watch. I need help. I need a way to catch her and i dont know how. She is doing very bad things in ower home. She has scared my 7 year old so bad that she want sleep in her own bed anymore .I need my life back. I know there is someone that can tell me what to do. No Devors not yet. It is important that my husband know it's his mothe

Answer 1

Catch her putting in a camera on one of your own. Then , send the tape to all your husband's relatives. Once people know that others know, they usually drop their invasion of you and your life. It's like the dirty little secret is out.

Now, there is another problem here -- you are really upset and feel invaded by this. Since your husband is so unresponsive, can you see a counselor? You need to work out your feelings, since in the end she is still your mother-in-law and the grandmother to your child -- and will be forever, no matter if a divorce occurs, etc.

Naturally, your mother-in-law is sick and needs help. I'm hoping other family members will realize the extent to which she is sick and will intervene. I'm also hoping others will help your husband see reality. As often happens, there are plenty of folks who put up with bad behavior, to the point of denying its existence, because the love and feel loyalty to that person. It's called cooperating with the illness. You need to walk a simple line ... without being critical and judgemental, state repeatedly that she is sick and needs help, that this is not the behavior of a rational adult, that there is free counseling through the church, etc. What you are trying to do by this is get people to agree with you, so it's not a case of choose a side. Instead, you are asking them to choose to help her.

Good luck -- I feel for you and wish I had better advice for how to handle this.

Answer 2

Get the private detectives to get some proof of what she is doing, and then show the PROOF to your husband. Also, get a Restraining Order against her once you have the proof, so that she may not come within 100 meters of your home again. She sounds like a nut case! Be careful.

Answer 3

Why didn't you have the Private Detective talk to your husband? That would of done it! Sounds to me like you have found plenty of evidence? If your husband doesn't believe you, who does he think is doing all this? You need to comfront your monther in law right in front of your husband and get it all out in the open. Sounds like you don't have much to lose at this point. The sooner the better..

Answer 4

"My mother in law seems so funny and kind but sometimes i receive those looks from her that make me feel something bad towards her, i dunno what !!!" never doubt yourself after all you are both females, the male is her child and the father of your children they say old is gold and younger has to always listen to older, but there are limits, younger doesn't always mean wronger, it is a circle and if each stops to the other, everything crumbles even relationships between people and we move to higher level perspectives and that leads to wars because what we did is take the smallest shape of the cell and put it on the physical earth scale youngers don't always know how to express themselves and that does not mean they have no other means of expression, language is various and they can be very sneaky in your eyes and in your eyes only because you believe that understanding better about the world is measured by your height height could have been considered righter only in perspective to your vision at the time of your standing on earth when you believed earth is a one dimension and that is why we are still being mass produced to finally get thrown into the oven, life does not work this way, we do not produce to die any longer, we are relaying only in the same kind, and the same kind keeps refuting other kinds, we are all the same thus we are all refuting one another we have become crowded and some believe the way out is by taking a rocket to another similar molecule in space not realizing that space has its own dimension too and earth is one of its molecules, you are altering again space as a whole and space as a whole shall not wait for you until you learn and adapt your knowledge better on another physical dimension it will explode and tell you ok, again...here it is from the beginning: nice try lets start all over what a tiring game do you know Eman that I have noticed something about myself, when I get tired, me Sahar, I tend to adopt Samson's attitude and bring the temple down and everybody, I get so angry I become blind, I see no one at all not even myself, not even my children, no one at all, but I do see my path I try hard to learn from previous mistakes (acting like Samson) and try to have more patience, so when no one listens to me I speak to my beautiful dog, we converse, he is awesome, all creatures "speak", you can find something else to distract you, read, play, go out, whatever appeases your anger, do it, but try to remember history's lessons, the first I think was: do not kill, terrorism is killing, period. Sorry Eman if I am confusing you, I am speaking on different levels here inside many dimensions, to all people. "noise" I am getting it from my blog, just a lapse of time, i will cut and paste "noise" Eman, let your child guide you. Listen to Him. And Child listen to your Ma. you see what i mean ? wala ahed el ma3bad fo2 demagh abook ? It's a circle if one takes the lead it breaks by the way as a note because i just turned TV off, Amr Adeeb yesterday was speaking about the importance of women as mo3gabeen and all his guests were men, he appeared to the viewers very strange, like he was the one who had a certain mo3gaba, or wanted to know how many mo3agaba he has made a link with, and he showed it as physical, not mental, the talk show in my opinion should have had had a different decor and would have made a good comedy

Answer 5

contact the police, have them run fingerprints on the camera's!

why is she doin this? are they in ur bedroom? bathroom?


set her up!

come up with a plan, do something in the camera's site that u KNOW she will go running to ur hubby and to tell him! get a friend (guy or girl) and discuss soemthing like ho wmuch u hate ur hubby ( obviously not true). or how much u hate her! LOL!


but i would contact the police! this is an invasion of privacy and is against the law....

Answer 6

I would do all u just did, then put a camera where u can catch her doing this stuff, but i will bet she isn;t the one doing the installing! Then I would send her a gift via your child with a
camera hidden in it! Or have her phone tapped! Listen in and
find out what she is up too!

Answer 7

Yes of course he needs to know.And if its been going on for this long you need to change that.his mother seems very unpredictable and may be suffering from sort of illness or sumfing.Your priority should be your childs safety.Maybe your husband knows whats going on and just doesn't want to admit it,let him know that your concerned about it and that your considering of getting a restraining order on her,that might get him to listen to you. Good luck to you

Answer 8

you need to move to a new apartment with your husband and NOT allow her over without her being supervised by both you and your husband the whole time. do not give her a key and do not let her in. if she tries, call the police and get a restraining order.

Answer 9

Actually I don't know the real situation of your home and I don't know why your mother in law live with your family. How if you contact your husband's brothers/sisters and offer them to care your mother in law. I think it's better according to your description in your question.

Answer 10

Why don't you report her to the police, she's making your life a living hell. Try talking toyour husband again.