I'm bisexual and I haven't come out to anyone yet. It's weird to even say those words. I don't know how to come out to my friends and family. I'm afraid of what they will think of me and how they will react. I'm afraid that things will change. I know that if they are my true friends they won't care, but that doesn't make it any less scary or nervewracking. I don't even know how to bring it up.
2006-11-16 18:28:19 · 6 answers · asked by littleg 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Dear Little g, I am PFLAG parent. PFLAG stands for Parents Families and Friends of Lesbians and Gays. But that also includes Bisexuals, Transgenders as well. I have sent you a website that will help you.
http://www.pflag.org/For_GLBT_Persons.comingout_glbt.0.html
This will help give you some information about coming out to friends and families. It is a scary thing to come out but don't be surprised if some family members go into the closet when you come out. It is normal. And takes some family members longer to accept it. There are many emotions that a person feels. And just remember that the people that loved you before will still love you after you come out. Stay strong.
2006-11-16 19:05:52 · answer #1 · answered by ncamedtech 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i would tell a close friend and ask them their opinion on it and since they know you and your family well they may be able to give you better advise than us online. being bisexual is more accepted now and some of your friends won't mind it because it's you and it is more accepted now than 5 or 10 years ago. family is always more difficult but it all depends on their open or closed minded and their religious beliefs if any exist. if no religious beliefs are involved it'll be easier. bring it up slowly and carefully and probably over a week or two just to see their reaction. like ask them questions about it and just get their initial reactions and then tell them a day or a week later when you're ready to tell them. stand your ground though and bring support if available. don't let them talk you out of it.because then it wouldnt be you.
2006-11-17 02:41:47 · answer #2 · answered by pebbles_cubbie 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I dont think anyone has to come out!
Have you ever met a straight person that came out to you? All this stuff about coming out................I think that we put to much importance "on the confession".
I am gay and out and all that I have done is to live my life...........I really cant stand the idea and feelings we have that we must tell people who we sleep with when no one else (straight) that is does such a thing.
I think we are still breeding discrimination and allowing society to controll us by having the need to confess who we are with possibilites of loosing those we love.
I dont think there is ever a time we have to come out .............just be you and live. Sure our immediate family is the scariest to deal with due to our love and attachments to them.
They will have a tough time especially if we "come out" and throw up exactly who we are on them in one seating and giving the impact and suddeness of the great confession of who we are and what we do with who we do it with.
Follow the adivce you have here educate yourself on the web sites listed and please take your time with this.
Nothing is going to happen to those you love or to you if you do not run and dump it on everyone.
Good Luck
2006-11-17 07:12:21 · answer #3 · answered by Crampy Grampy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gently my friend, very gently. Don't expect everyone to accept you at first. They kinda of have to get use to the idea. After awhile they will accept it as much as they except you as daughter or friend. Life is not always what it seems...I know all the scripture verses but I also pray and hope that God is a forgiving entity.
2006-11-17 02:34:37 · answer #4 · answered by e_piphany214 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Check out this site: http://www.outproud.org/brochure_coming_out.html
Coming out can be tough but it is well worth it. Find a support person, either by phone or in a group. You can do it. Good luck.
2006-11-17 02:42:26 · answer #5 · answered by San Diego Art Nut 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
just do what u have to do
2006-11-18 11:35:48 · answer #6 · answered by george p 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋