my boyfriend and i are going to brake up... were just waiting for the right time for him to leave.. Sadly my little baby is stuck in the middle. were just waiting for her to be born any day now.. the reason being is hes a drunk and a lier.. I have excepted that were basicaly over, hes always looking online at other girls* before i even realised it was over * but i still need to know?? and i still open my mouth about him drinking.. I love him still ofcorse. Id give anything to fix us.. But i know i cant anymore. Why cant i just stop? give up??
2006-11-16 18:24:16 · 7 answers · asked by pladedah 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Oh my gosh......somewhere down the line......my exes must have mated! The first was a raging drunk and the second the porn king. I left my first and never downed him in front of my kids.........but as life goes on and they get older they will see the mother and father for what they truly are. If you care about your child You will not live with a drunk! Wait, and I hope you don't........until your child is standing with a phone in his hand as you scream, "Please call the Police." While daddy is holding your arm behind your back and hollering, "Do it I dare you, cause if u do i will crush her arm and then they will really have a reason to be here." I swear to you as I type this I am shaking remembering all those years ago. I can't tell you what to do...........but for your child's sake.....please....seek help....please don't ever let this happen to your child because I swear.........no matter how you try to cover it up..........they always remember and so will you.........and so far as the porn.......you will never ever get over feeling like your 2nd, 3rd, 4th, 5th..........100th best..I can't tell you there are no words I have for you that can tell you what you will have to go thru. Your man is the two men i was married to in one. I wish I could change the course of your life. I mean this from the bottom of my heart...seek help...and listen...learn...and don't become a victim. I'm almost 50 and refuse to date...because of what i have been throught. Don't make my mistake...care enough about you and your child to know that you deserve better. Because the man who love so much right now will become you biggest nightmare....it a short few years.........please.......I know i sound crazy...but seek help, break the cycle before your child...starts a new one with someone else....
2006-11-16 18:53:24 · answer #1 · answered by texasue77 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should let him know how you feel. About his drinking, about everything. Let him know that you care because if you didn't, you wouldn't bring it up in the first place, and you definately wouldn't be breaking ur brain over it. You'd just let your relationship go down the drain. When the baby is born, it might straighten him up a bit, but it's up to you to work things out with him. He won't hear you if you just open your mouth. He'll only see that you have something to say, but he won't think that it's of any importance because you don't bother to tell him what you're feeling. It's hard for you stop or give up on him because you love him and he's the father of your child. Your child is the link that creates a bond between you and him that will last for the rest of both of your lives.
2006-11-16 19:04:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love takes two. You are needing him rather than loving him, and he is needing you so that he can continue the pattern he knows so well. He's not loving you if he's disrespecting you so much. I was in a similar situation until last year (he was a drunk liar, but I was not pregnant) and I wondered how I'd ever get out. I thought I loved him and he really loved me, but I finally realized that I have to respect myself and set standards for what I will and wont have in my life. If you don't respect yourself, few others will, really, as he is showing you. Lower your respect level for him a few notches, see him as he really is, know that there will be someone out there who will treat you like his treasure, and put it into perspective. That should at least make it somewhat easier for you.
2006-11-16 18:40:02 · answer #3 · answered by Laura Renee 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure you love him or is just the infatuation that is still alive. He still turns you on but that is not love that is lust and that never lasts so get on with it and find another life for you and yours.
2006-11-16 18:45:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Opening your mouth is not the answer. Say something.
2006-11-16 18:29:13 · answer #5 · answered by Hysteria 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cause you scared to raise the baby by yourself?
2006-11-16 18:29:45 · answer #6 · answered by master_der_man 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you care for him and you are going to have his child.
2006-11-16 18:32:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋