All I ever seem to do is argue with my friends, put them down, or hurt them. it's completely involuntary, and when do this its like im not me, but smeone else. i dont wanna keep doing this, because i admit that i am being a b*tch. what can i do?
2006-11-16 18:16:03 · 19 answers · asked by ezzaphill 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
hahaha, involuntary....right. It is completely voluntary, and all you have to do is calm down and think about what you're saying. You just need to grow up a bit
2006-11-16 18:20:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've already done the most important thing - admitting there is a problem and deciding you want to fix it.
The next thing to do is - realizing when exactly you do what you do. You will realize what triggers you, what makes you react to things the way you do. And once you know when and why you do things, you can start to change them.
Some tricks to try and not react quickly - count to 3 before saying something. Try saying things in your head before saying them out loud.
Also - the second you realize you've been rude or hurt someone, apologize immediately. Don't make excuses. Say you're sorry and mean it.
This won't happen at once, and it's a process trying to change, but you will do it. I know, because I was the same way. I'm still working on it. I still say things I didn't mean, and still insult or hurt people without thinking. But I'm a lot better. It takes time, but it will happen. Good luck.
2006-11-17 02:27:39 · answer #2 · answered by brand_new_monkey 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmm you're taking the first step right now. you're admitting your mistakes. which is good. so don't worry this means that you're going the right direction. now, just try to think before you speak or take any action towards your friends. it seems like you want to change and you will if you choose to hangout around the right people. and only you'll know who those right people are. if you want to change start hanging out with those who accepts the real you not your B*&^%^ side. but most of all, pray to GOD that he will guide you to the right way. he sees how much you want to change he will bless you with real true friends that will change you for the best, like what he did to me :D ... good luck. i know u can do it! we're all supporting you!
2006-11-17 02:26:17 · answer #3 · answered by mizz ADOHRable 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel that way at times but it's a personal choice.
You're probably just a moody person and it's gonna be hard to change it.
Try this, everytime you wanna say something mean to someone, smile at them and try and say something sweet instead (or don't say nothing at all)
Either you're unhappy about something in your life (and only you can figure out what that is) or you're insecure about yourself and you take it out on other people.
2006-11-17 03:14:37 · answer #4 · answered by julsgene 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look in side yourself for the answer to your question grasshopper.
j/k, sort of. do you think that it is cause of your own insecurities? thats my guess but you should make it a conscious effort to not be so beyatchy. if you do that your friends will appreciate it alot. you truly have no idea how words can really hurt, unless you are that way because you do know and are just doing it because it makes you feel better.
2006-11-17 02:23:08 · answer #5 · answered by Jessy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well find a total azzhole to be with !!! I bet you two would make a great pair.
Or you can stop and think before you react to something.I know its hard . I sometimes speak about what I'm feeling before thinking how it effects others including friends and family. It's not that your a ***** . It 's cus you let your emotons control your actions like me.
Sometimes when I think I'm right I say what I feel to people before thinking how these thing will effect them ..to me it 's I'm right about this listen too me.
Well if you wanna chat and stuff email me or contact me. I'll talk to you maybe we can talk or something.
2006-11-17 02:26:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
First, admit that you are indeed doing it voluntarily. Involuntary functions are breathing, your heart pumping, sweating, digestion, stuff like that; NOT treating people badly. This should be a no-brainer. Grow up and treat other people as you would like them to treat you.
2006-11-17 02:35:04 · answer #7 · answered by coolguy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
THINK before you say anything. If you wouldn't want it said to you, don't say it to your friends or you'll start to lose them! You might go to your friends and tell them honestly that you wish you weren't such a mean person to them, maybe they can give you some advice and support. And, they'll understand that you are not purposely hurting them.
2006-11-17 02:20:31 · answer #8 · answered by Alice 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can get like that sometimes. You just have to think before you speak and if you see your level of b*tchy increasing try to tone it down or change the subject. Also try to think positive and try not to judge your friends, even if they do something that is really stupid to you.
2006-11-17 03:07:36 · answer #9 · answered by Adrianna Christens 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good day...young Lady..!!.. All i can think of is ..Smile .!.. at your friends and try and think of the positive's..and laughter that you have with your friends...and they will smile back.. if you have respect and compassion to other's ...they will treat you equaly the same... friendship is involuntary too...but will grow ..if you reat those friends correctly.....good luck.!!.
2006-11-17 02:30:21 · answer #10 · answered by david 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋