I'm afraid of dying. Can anybody help me?

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I'm afraid of dying. Can anyone help me?
Ever since I saw my all of my grandparents die in short periods of time and watching personally how my goddaughter died I've become afraid of death. I dream of my mom in a hospital room dead. I dream of my dad in a coffin.

Everytime I hug my parents, I cry because I don't want to lose them. Sometimes, at night, I watch them sleep. Hoping that they're still breathing.

I dream of myself dying and wondering where I will go. I'm most afraid of losing my memories when I die. I want to remember who I am and what I do. I don't want to forget anything.

I'm 15 years old. Is it right to worry about this? I don't want people telling me I'm crazy or whatever. I'm serious and I really need your help.

Answer 1

I know how you feel and honestly you just have to pray about it. Ask God to take those feelings away from you. It's normal to feel that way and it will go away with time. Try not to dwell on it. I watch to see if my parents are breathing sometimes, my husband and my dog too! It's perfectly normal. I am also afraid of losing my memories, and to help with that I keep a journal. I write constantly, I even have an online one, which is set to private so nobody can read my thoughts but me. You might want to try that. Good Luck, God Bless.

Answer 2

Oh my, K.. Fifteen and worried about death?

Does it serve you to be fearful of the inevitable? Will you go through your entire life focussed on death when you've got so much living to do? We live on a time line. We are temporal beings and as far as we know, as Jim Morrison said, no one gets out alive.

Follow the intake and exhaling of your breath. That's the breath of life. You will do that a zillion times before realizing that it's all over and then.. On to the next step.

There's a book that might be a little confusing for you, but if you are a mature fifteen, it might be an idea to read it. If you do opt to find it and read it, it's important that you just read it. Don't worry about understanding it all. Just read the words and get what you can. It may make sense to you as you mature.

It's called "The Book" by Alan Watts.

Meanwhile. ask yourself if being upset about death is something that really makes your life worthwhile? See if you can look at your parents and your friends and teachers in this moment and appreciate them and it right now. The inevitable is patient and when the time comes, it's just nature's way of saying "Slow Down."

But for now.. enjoy life. read The Book. ask more questions.

be well.

Answer 3

Everybody's afraid to die. But there's nothing you can do about it, and most people learn to deal with insoluble problems by not worrying about them, at least in the short term. Most people find life pretty hard over time, and eventually it becomes possible to accept the idea of death as an eternal rest, just like our friends the morticians tell us it is. At least in abstract. In particular it's still a bit of a shock. Anyway if you live long enough to get old you'll have had plenty of time to get used to the idea.

Answer 4

EVERYONE is afraid of dying, whether they believe in god(s) or not. Your parents watched you sleeping when you were little to ensure you were breathing too. They live in fear of your death.

You will learn to live with this realisation as you grow older. Think of it this way - all going well, you have another 60 years to live. That four of your lifetimes so far. That's over 3000 weekends. That's a very long time.

Similarly, your parents probably have 40 years left. By the time it happens, you will be able to deal with it. Concentrate on getting good grades at school, go to college make the most of your time.

Answer 5

Sometimes the fear of dying swallows up my thoughts so completely that I have get out of whatever room I am in.
Often I find myself wanting to crawl into bed with my mother like an eight year old awoken by a terrible dream.

I'm so sorry that you are 15 and it hurts so bad.
But you know that it is unstoppable. Whatever it is. So force the thought out of your mind until you are brave enough to conquer it.

But don't let this fear make you dead inside.

Look for outlets in poetry, etc.

But one thing to learn is that no one can help you with this. No one can ever really help you but yourself. And once you take back your own life and death, than you finally own your own being which is something that is so hard to do.

Anyway, the only way to beat death is to live, right? Make your experiences count and your memories won't be lost if you leave them behind for the eternal world.


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Answer 6

Awe its okay. I know how you feel on account of losing someone that was very close to me. I lived in fear just as you are but if you cant get the thought out of your mind, atleast let a positive thought follow it. Like Heaven! It exist and its the last place you should be scared to go. Your grandparents will be there, you wont feel anymore pain, youll be able to be with everyone you loved from earth and so on...try to live for the moment though honey..maybe see a therapist if it gets too bad. Good luck :)

Answer 7

Hello:

I feel very sorry that you fear dying at such a young age. You're not crazy. You may be stressed out from the experiences you mentioned.

You should definitely talk to someone you are very close to, for instance your parents. In addition, you should discuss this with a counsellor or psychologist. Someone in your school should be able to direct you to a good counsellor.

I think you can get alot of help with this. You should tell your parents and the people you are closest to. You aren't crazy.

Answer 8

See! Be cool and calm. With worry things wont work out . U got lso much future infront of u. Seems that u are very very understanding girl. Whatever u see is not real in this world. Share your feelings with any elders. But not your age . Try to keep some hobbies like dancing,, painting, yoga. Join any hobby courses. It gives lt of direction. Dont stay alone. Try to be with friends group. Choose some craft works.Visit your relatives houses or any holiday trips in monthly ones. Try to help others. Spend time with any small children or pets. Change your life style. This is not a age for u to worry. U are a sweet girl. Leave worries . Enjoy. We all are here to give support.

Answer 9

Wow, you're trusting, maybe a little too trusting.

It doesn't happen to everybody, but what you are going through is common. You need to cry for everybody a certain number of times. I'm a guy, and I just said that. If a guy can say that, then it's true.

If I were you I would find someone more trustworthy then the Yahoo answers people to help you, so see ya.

Good luck, peace.

I'm praying for you.

Answer 10

When I was young my Dad died, it bothered me for a long time I would think about not myself dying but my family and being left alone. I believe in God and I became stronger in my relation with God after my Dad died, it has been over 25 years now since he died, I still think of him and will cry over certain memories, you might want to talk to your parents or a school counselor, or start reading the bible and praying and asking God for understanding and peace. I am sorry to hear of your losses it is hard no matter what age you are.