Hey,
I met this girl as my ballroom dance competition partner about 5 weeks ago. And we've been hanging out a lot together.
Well I think I'm just being the person I naturally am, being extremely helpful. I always drive her around, help her move house, take her around the city (she's new to the city), just hang out and buy her drinks, pay for her lunch, nurse her when she was ill. I suppose i have to spend lots of time with her because of dancing.
I would probably do the same for everyone that I spend that much time together. But am I being too nice to her?
2006-11-16 17:36:50 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
It sounds like you are. If you guys aren't dating and if you have to desire to "be with her" or date her...then you are being too nice. People tend to take advantage of that niceness and you could get hurt emotionally in the long run if she does indeed, use you.
J
2006-11-16 17:47:46 · answer #1 · answered by Jenn 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That depends on whether you are just doing out of the kindness of your heart, voluntarily, or she has asked you to do this.
Personally I think that you are setting yourself up to be taken for granted. Wouldn't it be nice to know that someone is going to hang out with you whether you pay for lunch or not? Or when you need something that they will be there to help you out too?Try to say no (nicely) and see what happens.
2006-11-16 17:46:35 · answer #2 · answered by having_a_blonde_day_lol 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW you're being really nice! Your not being too nice but don't drive yourself crazy doing thigns for her, if you're okay with all this it's not being too nice.
2006-11-16 17:56:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you're being a good friend. Taken care of friends is what friends do.
2006-11-16 18:00:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOu are being a doormat. Stop it. You seem desperate.
2006-11-16 18:03:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋