What I mean, is daughters for their fathers, and sons for their mothers? Is that normal?? Of course, I don't mean to tell anyone to carry out those feelings at all!!! But is it normal, thing most people experience?
2006-11-16 17:26:37 · 18 answers · asked by hecatemother 3 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I think it is normal for very young males, say around 7-10 years old. I know this question might turn off a lot of people, but it's not a disgusting question. Many males are naturally drawn to there mother and I do not think it is weird behavior at all. It is a mothers job to set straight a son when this occurs. Many young males are very close to Mothers and when sexual hormones kick in, they naturally turn to mom for help.
2006-11-16 17:30:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
According to classical Freudian psychology it isn't at all uncommon.
The issue at hand is perhaps not the idea that many people do or have felt this but that so few people are honest enough to admit it.
The idea that someone has at one time had a fantasy concerning a parent shouldn't disgust people as much as it does as it is limited to the fantasy itself.
Admittedly, there is a major concern should one give in to this desire but according to many psychologists it isn't the slightest bit abnormal to have at least once fantasized about it.
This of course, neglects the question as to what "normal" really is...
2006-11-16 17:47:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
As many people have said, it's considered normal according to Freud. During the Phallic Stage of development, a child may develop an attraction to their parent of the opposite sex; if a boy is attracted to his mom, he'll try to hide those feelings for fear of his father (castration complex) and in turn he will model his father's behavior. So if you believe in Freud's theories, then yes, it is normal. However, if the child doesn't resolve conflicts during the Phallic Stage, problems may arise later in life (fixations). In short, it's normal to have that attraction, it is NOT normal to act on those feelings, say, by making a pass at your parent.
2006-11-17 07:35:59 · answer #3 · answered by ebigstanks 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Reality TV? No Movie, mini-series, play sure. There is good sacrifice in this topic that would need a counter couple to show the fruits of this sacrifice ( manageable broken heart, avoiding fear of pregnancy, Std's, and elevating the dignity of the genders ). IMO we seem to focus too much on the woman's quest. This is leaving young men unprepared on how to deal with the sacrifice of abstienence too. Relationships also face more than physical obsticals, they face emotional obsticals against the ideal. This leaves even the chaste couple unprepared and vulnerable to fail at relationships. I guess after all my babbling, a show about how to succeed in a relationship may be a better focus.
2016-05-21 22:07:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Freud said it was normal but people now recongize Freud as being a fraud. Seriously, modern psychology discredits him majorly and he was not right! I'd say there is something not normal about having a sexual attraction to one's parent. I think a very very young child (three or four) thinks they want to marry their opposite sex parent but does not think anything of them sexually as they don't have those feelings just yet. There may be surpressed abuse issues coming out if there is a sexual attraction to one's parent. Or in the case that a parent was never there enough for someone, I've heard of girls having "daddy complexes" or boys having "mommy complexes" in that they fall for older men/women.
2006-11-19 07:32:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
According to Freudians (people who follow the teachings of Freud) yes it is normal, it is called an Oedipus or Electra complex. Supposedly you will work out these natural feelings during childhood, if you don't then your growth as a human has been stunted and you can't move on until you complete that stage. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sigmund_Freud
2006-11-16 18:34:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As in Oedipus complexes and Electra complexes? *shrugs* I personally have never felt it, but I've heard it's fine. Even if it weren't, it's not like others can dictate what one feels. Even one cannot dictate what one feels... it wouldn't fall under the category of "normal," but who the hell wants to be "normal" anyway?! And by the way, it's not only heterosexual. Men can feel for men, and women can feel for women, too, you know. I guess I'm saying this only because I am one of the few people on here who is NOT close-minded about incest.
2006-11-16 17:39:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have not experienced this myself, but it *IS* a fairly common occurence, yes.
Google for the "oedipus complex". This goes one stage further - sleep with one parent, kill the other - however you are likely to find more information about the sexual attraction from results on this type of search.
Freud became quite interested in such things - as he did with most things sexual - so try adding his name to your search command
2006-11-16 17:45:18 · answer #8 · answered by Mark T 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Freud thought is was true for all of us I don't know about that in modern science but I honestly remember feelings of the Oedipus complex from my youth. I believe it is not only normal but an undeniable part of the
whole for all.
2006-11-16 17:39:26 · answer #9 · answered by dogpatch USA 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
That is a little sick....Most people have love for their parents, but never sexually unless there is pedophilia in the house. No way is that normal. Maybe you should speak to someone professional on that matter. I have to say IT is not normal, it is not normal, it is not normal, it is not normal, You are not normal...You get it yet??????????
2006-11-16 17:53:46 · answer #10 · answered by wndybcktt 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋