I've been with my bf for 2 years now, and my mom hates him. She had went in my room, tore up pictures and cards from my boyfriend and when I asked her lied about it and told me I should leave. B/C I was so fed up with being treated like a kid(I'm almost 20), I moved in with my boyfriend and his mom who okayed the idea. After about two weeks I realized something was wrong so I got a pregnancy test, and I was + (actually 2 months at the time). When his mom found out she was very upset, telling me how she didn't want any grand kids as if I got preg. by myself. Then his brother TOLD me to get an abortion because my bofriend didn't love me. I didn't and now I'm 6 mos and I keep catching his mom talking about me to her friends saying I knew I was pregnant and this and that. I'm not sure whether I should tell my boyfriend, or just leave. Me and my mom are on better terms and she told me i could always come back. But I want my son to see his father.
2006-11-16 17:21:45 · 15 answers · asked by bre714 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Both my boyfriend and I work, were saving to get our own place. He knows I'm pregnant but doesn't know what his mother or brother said because I haven't told him yet.
2006-11-16 17:39:36 · update #1
Congrats on the stand you took on keeping your gift from God! I think you should take care of you. Your pregnant and need to take care of you. Stress will only make the baby upset and maybe cry more when it's born or be born at low weight. Stress is no good. Discuss it with you Dr.. I say take care of you rub your feet, stomach, back, and thighs with mineral oil often, eat and sleep when needed. When you hear that negative stuff take a walk or a drive and enjoy time with you. Save and get out with him or without him. I wish you all the luck.
Oh Yeah! and something someone never told me is to keep a bra on at all times to decrease the Sagging. Good Luck babe girl. Everything will work out. Pray.
2006-11-16 18:04:00 · answer #1 · answered by Peek@u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didnt say what your boyfriend thought of all this?
Tell your boyfriend how his family has treated you, if he does not support you and stand up for you and your unborn baby, then he does not love you enough to make it work. Then you should leave and go home to your parents where you can be looked after and raise your child in a loving household. This does not mean your child can't see his father, you two would just have to be adult about it and organise for access visits.
Do what is best for you and the baby, and think with your head not your heart.
2006-11-16 17:32:49 · answer #2 · answered by having_a_blonde_day_lol 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first thing you need to do is talk to your boyfriend.Tell him the situation entirely..If he loves you and the unborn baby he will do all he can to make things better for you,him,and the unborn child..If he doesn't,move back in with your mom..Abortion is totally out of the question now but if you don't believe that you can be a good,stable,loving parent adoption might be a fair idea..
2006-11-16 19:32:27 · answer #3 · answered by john316tdh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well your 20 and pregnant, I think its time to grow up. Stop living like a child, get a job and support yourself. Stop depending on your mom or his mom to take care of you. He as well should get a job, you are going to have someone else to support in 3 months or so. It sounds like you just really need to grow quick or go ahead and put the baby up for adoption so someone that wants it can love and care for it. Without needing there mothers money to support them.
2006-11-16 17:34:26 · answer #4 · answered by kara25701 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay. I like you to stay, CareBears have a very nice azzes. don't know if I'm a perv or not. but I like CareBear butts. but you are also a good questioner and answerer, funny and have cute avatar. although you may turn out to be a man in the basement. or a woman in an office cubicle. Edit: "The an" is a proper grammar, but I wronged it.
2016-05-21 22:05:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you put yourself in an abusive position??? Go home to Mom and both of you work it out, child will always have a father as long as he pays child support...just make sure the fathers name is on birth certificate....
2006-11-16 17:29:06 · answer #6 · answered by wonder woman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you and your man need to get out on your own away from all the parents.. You need to start life away from everyone who hurts the relationship.. Unless of course you think his brother was right in saying the guy doesn't love you. Go with your instinct.. pregnant women usually have good instincts, they just tend to let emotions get in the way. I wish you the very best of luck sweetie.
2006-11-16 17:33:04 · answer #7 · answered by jessica m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a pregnancy is hard enough without added stress. the most important thing now is your unborn child. go back and stay with your mom. your boyfriend should understand and if it's in the cards, then you guys will be together. good luck.
2006-11-16 17:45:55 · answer #8 · answered by Adonna P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should go back and stay with your mom. Your child can still see his father if your boyfriend wants to be a father to the baby.
2006-11-16 17:31:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go back and live with your mom.
Your boyfriend and his family are bad news because they treat you badly. You and your unborn child don't need that crap. I personally would not let the boyfriend see his son after treating me like crap, but that's up to you.
Good luck. :)
2006-11-16 17:28:22 · answer #10 · answered by Nancy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋