My husband and I have been married for 4 months, We have been together for almost 5 years. I had two kids before and now we have 2 kids together total 4. Anyways right after we had our first child together I found out that he had put himself on some internet dating sites claiming he was single. This of course angered me and it took along time for me to forget. Well now he refuses to show me his work email. Last time I found through his email, they send your auto matches to your email. So am I over reacting wanting to know his work email and password. He refuses to show me.
2006-11-16 16:59:01 · 5 answers · asked by asianside 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Smack him on the back of the head...This is so wrong and i totally understand you being angry...
You need to talk to him about this, when you do don't start out by accusing him...You need to be calm when you do this...Ask him if he feels he is missing something in your marriage, listen to him. This is a good time for you to tell him what your lacking and how you are feeling. He needs to just sit there and hear you out. If you both can talk and both can listen, you may figure out whats going in your relationship and get this settled. He is wrong if he is doing this to you, this could kill the trust in your relationship and you may not get it back...Nip this in the bud now, later it will only get harder.... See if someone can watch your kiddos while you do this, it better they do not here this...Good luck....
2006-11-16 17:26:16 · answer #1 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously, you don't trust him. You never really got over it. Why do you want to see his work email? To make sure everything is OK? If that's the case, the trust is gone. You need to deal with that.
2006-11-17 01:10:39 · answer #2 · answered by ttjakt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol my husband is still on some dating sites so i just join the sites to let him know how it feels and as far as his profile on msn when he knows i do not use that only yahoo but i have his password i just went in and changed his profile to say married.. relax even if he is chatting with someone on line its just a fantasy he married you he comes home to you he has children with you but if it really really bothers you install a Internet spy-ware program keystroke is a good one then when he logs in let him have his privacy and when u have a chance to be alone you can log on and look at everything he has typed... Good Luck
2006-11-17 01:35:21 · answer #3 · answered by Amy M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The trust issue will not go away by itself. It sounds as tho you both need to speak with a professional, if you're unable to resolve matters yourselves. Something isnt as it should be with either of you. And you both need to WANT to resolve these issues so that trust is regained between you both.
2006-11-17 01:41:22 · answer #4 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have no reason to trust him. You are not overeacting. He has lost your trust and respect. He should be willing to do anything to prove to you that he is worthy of your trust. I would take it as a sign that there is more that he has to hide.
2006-11-17 01:54:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋