My boyfriend and I have been together for 5 years. A few months ago, I cheated with a guy I met for the first time. Out of guilt, I told my boyfriend. He was devestated. He gave me another chance and things are okay but still not the same. He would have mood swings and he checks all my emails and phone records. I love him, I want him in my life. I just need for him to move on, so we can move on.
2006-11-16 16:51:46 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
He needs time to go though this...Just give him time, alot of time...
2006-11-16 18:12:25 · answer #1 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeh... 'Love' okay, so you expect things to be all flowers an rosy after you pull that move??? 5 years is a long time and ill bet thats the only reason he stayed with you, in staying with you though, hes turned into a detective because u have given him every reason to investigate whether a) ur tellin the truth
b) ur bangin tom, dick an harry
Do not think that tellin him u love him or anything like that will change anything cause u supposedly loved him before you did it
2006-11-16 17:08:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So after five years in an apparently loving and trusting relationship, you decided to destroy that trust by sleeping with a man you don't know. Then, just a few months later, you expect things to be just like they were before? YOU break one of the foremost cardinal rules of being in a relationship, and just a few months later want HIM to just get over it? If you truly loved him you would feel blessed he even chose to stay with you, and be spending every day trying to rebuild his trust in you. Personally I think you have a very good idea though, he should move on...to someone else.
2006-11-16 19:20:48 · answer #3 · answered by michaelcrane22 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will never be the same again cause you broke the most important rules for couples,you cheated.He can forgive you but he will never forget it,so before you two begin hating each other you might as well call it quits and move on.Even if he had the chance to cheat on you it won't change what you done and he may never be able to trust you again.
2006-11-16 17:02:44 · answer #4 · answered by master_der_man 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure that with him is where you want to be? Women usually cheat when the relationship is over. I know that is generalizing but it really seems true. I have only cheated on one man ever and it was because I didn't want to be with him anymore but didn't have the heart to tell him. It was a stupid thing to do because I ended up hurting him way worse that way....
2006-11-16 17:03:58 · answer #5 · answered by Chula 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Accept the fact that he loves you enough to want to stay with you. He is probably going to keep checking up on you for a long time to come yet. If you really love him accept this and don't give him any reason to distrust you. In time he will move on but if he is worth keeping you will have to be patient. I got really drunk one night about 29 years ago and let another woman perform oral sex on me. My wife found out shortly after and continued to check up on me for about five years after that. We have been married 31 years now.
2006-11-16 17:01:42 · answer #6 · answered by David C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have the guy you cheated with go to your boyfriend and tell him what a sweet, honest person you really are. After all, if the guy you cheated with doesn't know the real you, who does?
2006-11-16 17:37:16 · answer #7 · answered by older, not wiser 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, at this point, he has knows he can go cheat because you did. I always think it's best for people to part after someone has cheated because the other person is so hurt and feels it is open field to cheat to make them feel better. I never can understand how- if you love someone- you can cheat on them.
2006-11-16 17:02:23 · answer #8 · answered by Recreantess 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
unfortunetly you have broken his trust and that takes a LONG time to repare, he may never forgive you. Try and make things as normal as possible, and NEVER EVER give him any other reason to believe you'd do it again.
I hope things work out okay
2006-11-16 17:35:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Consider how you would feel if he cheated on you. He may be unable to move on. And that's understandable. There isnt much you can do. He's been hurt deeply.
2006-11-16 17:00:04 · answer #10 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
for now you are at his mercy and i know this sounds bad. but i am in your boat too my friend. if you do love him and you do feel remorse for you indiscrestion then you just have to ride the wave of his emotions. it will get better over time. for now just try to be as loving and devoted as you can be. good luck.
2006-11-16 16:57:51 · answer #11 · answered by beckdawgydawg 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋