why is it this way?

Question

okay im 15 years old...
i understand that i might be too 'young' to have a boyfriend and that my parents wont approve of me having one right now. what if im ready to have a boyfriend? cuz some ppl do mature faster than others. im very mature. and i know they wont change their mind. they said when im in college. that's not fair. i dont care anymore. im tired of breaking a guy's heart. especially the ones that i really liked. if the opportunity comes up, im taking it and getting a boyfriend. is this the right choice?

im not tryna prove anything. i just feel like im ready to be in a relationship.

Answer 1

Your parents don't have to know that you're dating. You have to start somewhere if you want to make smart choices about relationships when you're older. It's better when you're younger because you're still innocent and you're both starting out.

When you get older, you'll get pressured by experienced guys and you won't know what you're doing so you'll just give in because that's what you think is okay when it's not.

I'm not supposed to be dating until I'm done with college and I started when I was 14.

All you have to do is keep your grades up and your legs closed. That's all your parents really care about.

Answer 2

You are in a dilemma and i understand that. But what is a boyfriend and what for do you need 1? Think about it right. There is no rush about certain things because that can hold us down. You want to have a boyfriend because evry1 of your age has 1? Think of your future. If you need a boyfriend for your in-between legs, you are on the wrong path. You can have a friend male, but keep your grades high and close your legs. You don't need to prove to any1 that you are mature.

Answer 3

My parents didn't allow me and my sisters to date until we were 18. This . . . didn't work for me. I went behind my parents back, and I had boyfriends anyway.

I'm a lot older now, and I understand why they didn't want me to have boyfriends. They wanted me to focus on my education and to avoid having sex before I was ready.

So, the decision you have to make is, do you want to talk to your parents about this like you've talked to us here at Yahoo answers, do you want to do it behind your parents back at the risk of constantly being found out and getting in serious trouble, or do you want to follow their rules?

If you choose to do it behind their back, you have to be prepared to make some very adult decisions. Are you going to be smart about where you go and don't go with your potential future boyfriend(s)? Are you going to remember what your priorities are instead of letting emotions cloud your judgment? Are you going to make the right decisions about sex when the situation comes up (and it will)?

I'm not condoning you go behind your parents back. It's not fun, and it's a quick way to disappoint the people you love most. At the same time, if you think you can handle it, you can also handle the responsibility of talking to your parents like an adult.

Hope that helps, and good luck. :)

Answer 4

just dont tell them. why do people find the need to tell their parents everything. what they dont know wont hurt them. and you are too young, but honestly there are second graders out there hiding under the jungle gym kissing their "boyfriends", so I'm pretty sure age doesn't matter anymore. good luck. and for the heart breaking thing... you can only break a heart if it was in your possesion to begin with.


good luck.

Answer 5

disobeying your parents is never the right choice. you need to remember that they have your best interest at heart. find a grandmother, aunt or an uncle, an adult that your parents know and trust that can talk to them or be a mediator or something. you sound like a smart young lady and before you disobey your parents think about the consequences- is loosing your parents trust and respect worth a 2 week boyfriend. think before you act.

Answer 6

Most kids start dating around your age. I think your parents are just trying to protect you from the affects of a relationship. When you are mature or older you handle emotional situations differently.

Answer 7

hold your horses, don't rush into things, wait a little while longer. You can may say your mature enough but r u really, there's lots of thing out there that you might not know about yet, so my advice is try to understand your parents point of view and keep it cool.

Answer 8

no. you'd be disobeying your parents and since they do and have been providing for you all you're little life, you owe them respect. don't think they haven't realized that you are mature. but you don't sound like it to me. you're tired of breaking guys heart--wait till you feel what they are going to do to your heart. they don't want just one girl, and your parents are right. don't you care about breaking their hearts? of course not, you 15 now, the world revolves around you, and you only.

Answer 9

This is great people...tell her to lie to her parents! Listen to your parents, and you might get lucky and not end up a single mom on welfare, with a 50 dollar a month C/S check from his/her crack dealing daddy!

Answer 10

Boys are fine at your age are fine as friends but when things get heavier than that it just makes life to dramatic. Besides most boys your age have one track minds.