I'm not sure if I'm the only person?

Question

when during your pregnancy or after birthing did you feel a bond?
when did you say like to yourself I AM a MOTHER?.. I am 38 weeks I feel connected but it doesn't feel real.. I don't want to be a bad mother.. I'm wondering if it has to do with the absence of my mother (my grandparents raised me)

Answer 1

Your just fine! It's not abnormal to have a baby and still feel like your not connected. Everyone is different. But don't worry, your mommy instincts will kick in fast enough. Getting up every three hours is a little rough, but will turn out to be well worth it. Good luck!!

Answer 2

I felt the bond the first time i heard her heart beat, from that second on i knew i was going to be a mother. i had the nesting feeling they talk about the night before you go into labor through the whole pregnancy. Not having a mother around growing up may be the issue, but sometimes it doesn't hit a mother that they are a mother until they see or hear there child for the first time or hold them in there arms then here comes the tears and the reality of what is going to happen for the next 18+ years. Don't Worry everyones different you will get the feeling it may not be until the day of the birth but you will feel it. Your not a bad mother it just takes time.

Answer 3

I felt a bond when I saw the hearbeet at 7 weeks, however felt a better one when she began kicking. Birth though is the true bond, you will see your baby & wonder what life was like w/o your baby

Answer 4

it all differs time to time. when you hear the heartbeat the first time you get excited, then you feel the first kicks, you get excited and think " wow i cant wait till he/she gets here" and when they arrive...your instincts just kick in when they kick in. When my son was born and i held him, i was like " he hates me" and gave him to my boyfriend to hold. I just didnt connect with him and it depressed me BIG TIME. But i got through it and the first year was a lil tough but he is 3 now and we are closer then ever! Now im expecting my 2nd child and I know what to do better this time around and not let me nerves get the best of me. best of luck hun! youll be a great mother!

Answer 5

It will all changes the moment you hear that tiny baby cry and see it for the first time. While, you bond through out that is the moment of truth. Too me it is like nothing else in the world existed or was going on at that time.

Don't doubt yourself!
~*~*~Good Luck~*~*

Answer 6

My father said that he didnt even realize he was a father til I was about 3 months so I guess it happens for different people at different times. Im 20wks and I dont feel like a mother

Answer 7

The first time I ever felt a bond was when I saw him for the first time...the second time when he started kicking, the third time when we found out he was a boy, fourth and fifth time was when he was born and when I first breast fed him! Don't worry it will come...

Answer 8

you are right.. there is a psycological effect if you were not raised by your own parent/s but its really up to you.. if you want that your child will be attached to you, then even if you are pregnant.. you are really excited once your baby will come out.. its a nice feeling.. it worth the pain you experience during delivery.. you could feel that you are connected to your child inside esp. when he/she kicks..so cute

Answer 9

everyone is different....you will probably feel a bond with your baby once he or she is here....but dont be scared if after a week or two you start to not feel so fond of your baby...stay strong...its just the postpardom depression

Answer 10

AM NOT A MOTHER AM ONLY 14 BUT I THINK THAT YOU SHOULD THINK HOW U WANTED YOUR MOTHER TO BE WHEN SHE WAS UR MOTHER AT MY AGE....NOT TOO STRICT BUT NOT TO EASY GOING PROTECT BUT DON'T OVER PROTECT BE FUN LET THEM TRUST YOU ACT TO THEM THAT YOU CAN BE THERE MOM AND A FRIEND TO COUMNT ON...AM SURE U'LL BE A GREAT MOM