tonight it came to a head; we were divorced feb this year, he led me on to get back together again, then the very next weekend after we were "together", he has another woman hidden in his apt., then he married her a month and a half later because he lost his 2nd job in 6 months and needed to get back with me or....someone else. he even gave me a deadline to get back together! I was suspicious then and said, why? do you have someone else in line? and sure enough...oh yeah, he is not a citizen, he's from Sweden and wants to be one now. He forced our daughter to go out with him and this woman, never slowly introducing her, and then forced her to stay at her home--where he lives now of course--making her nervous and scared of them. My attny said i need more to go on. Well i have documented a lot of stuff thru legal avenues like her school, etc. and tonight i refused to force her to go with him and he called the cops on me (i called them first). i will do what it takes to protect her.
2006-11-16 16:17:02 · 4 answers · asked by nowisthetime 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
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he has never cared about our daughter before, since her birth. something's up and my stomach is queasy everytime i see him. i may end up in jail for not letting her go until i know more.
2006-11-16 16:21:39 · update #1
You could take your daughter to counseling. They could help determine why she is so scared.
You can't deny him visitation, unless you have some proof that there is abuse or neglect.
I got divorced this year, too. Thankfully my ex does not want to deal with our 5 yr old hating his new GF and he does not insist that she go. (I think he just does not want to deal with her)
2006-11-16 16:56:36 · answer #1 · answered by toobusytostress 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, your lawyer is right. You need proof of any wrong doing in order for him to take legal action. Assuming that what you're describing above is coming from your own daughter and not your own fears, what you can do right now is document everything. Write down the dates and times when incidents like you described occurs. Document your daughter's reactions and responses. If your daughter is really in distress about having to go see her dad and his new wife, you need to be vigilant in documenting and writing down dates and times of every incident that occurs.
2006-11-16 16:42:24 · answer #2 · answered by Leila G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ya know i feel horrible for your daughter. thats a really crummy situation. Shes problaby scared for good reason...when i was little i was stuck in a situation similiar and i was right to be scared the guy was a felon. As soon as you can get her out of the situation, the laws do suck though. he might even be doing this just to make you miserable.
2006-11-16 16:28:05 · answer #3 · answered by courtiepie4u 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop being a B of a ex. Even if he is a total jerk but he is the jerk you had a child with. The daughter is half his and half your, no more, no less. You are feeding things into your daughters mind, what is bad and what is good, stop trying to brain wash her so she only loves you. She has the right to have as many people in her life that love her as possible. May I suggest you go get some psychological help you are damaging your daughter, stop now.
2006-11-16 16:28:45 · answer #4 · answered by lily 6 · 0⤊ 3⤋