The beginning of the year I started working for a Christian lady but due to the fact I was studying I had to leave the job because she expected me to only put time into my job... I then went to volunteer at a missions office and the lady in charge said that my studies come first and then my volunteer work, so I thought this was ideal for me... But soon after that I became the office "tea girl" * I found there wasn't a minute were I wasn't told to do something, again I found my studies were suffering, so I had to leave... I decided that I needed to study full time... The problem is I study correspondence & my mom has an office at home... Now I've become her PA... I never asked for this it was just thrown at me... Whenever I say I am unable to help her, or i try talk to her about it she makes me feel terrible about it!!... My studies have started suffering... I know for a fact that this it not what God has from me... I cant exactly leave now... & I dont want to hurt my mom, PLZ ADVISE..
2006-11-16 16:04:15 · 14 answers · asked by mist_faer 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You should definitely sit down and have a serious conversation with your mother. Let her know that the reason are home is because your studies were suffering and you need time to concentrate. Let her know that you would love to help her with some things whenever she needed you but you guys should sit down and devise a schedule. Let her know you'd like to hit the books between a certain time and then you 'll be free to help her after that time. Make sure you pray before you talk to her so that she will be receptive. Let her know that you believe that God has great things for you, but you have to work to get it. She will definitely believe that and she'll want you to do whatever you need to do to receive the blessings that he has pre planned for your life. Remember Proper Planning Prevents Poor Performance - God Bless.
2006-11-16 16:31:10 · answer #1 · answered by shanstew 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I do not. Things can hold you back,like not having enough money(sometimes this is not your fault) and by not making the correct decisions. When you do not realize that at 11:00pm that you are going 49 in a 35 zone a zone( which should be 45) and you get a 100.00 ticket.. I mean we are not really free because we have to live and play by many rules which may not be to our "own" best interest, while making errors(sometimes grave) along the way. I think we can "earn" more freedom through hard work,patience,tenacity , by not fu7king up, and of course, by making the correct choices. A person can get stuck for awhile in life and may not be living in an ideal situation. Not to mention things that happen randomly in life that can alter a person and their life taking away their freedoms(becoming crippled, for example). When I think of this, I get quite anxious and scared. So, I try not to think of this,all the freedoms I do and do not have . I just go on(living day to day),trying to solve each obsticale and to save money for my future,in the hope that some day(hopefully sooner rather than later) I will have more personal freedom and live a better life.
2016-05-21 22:00:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
One Christian to another, Pray about it. Also tell your Mom your grades are suffering because of the lack of time you have to study. Arrange a couple of Saturdays for work if she will allow. Explain all this is just too much for you right now to handle on a daily basis.
2006-11-16 16:14:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
well my answer is that this is exactly what God wants for you..You are being confronted with a problem with the hope of a positive resolution...My advice is that you take a good look at yourself first and see if you are in some way not being honest with yourself about helping your mom or anyone else...If you determine that what you feel is accurate then you have to confront the issue in an assertive manner. This is a short answer to a difficult problem but as long as you are honest with yourself and others..then you will be ok
2006-11-16 16:14:08 · answer #4 · answered by RD4534321 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I have always heard a saying that goes, "God helps those who help themselves".
I am not a Christian per say, but I believe in you not having to be sub-servant to anyone, especially if it interferes with your plans for study and bettering yourself.
I have also heard somewhere, "Ask, and believe, and you shall receive". Maybe try asking God for you want to happen and I am sure it will.
You deserve not only Freedom, but also respect from everyone, including your own Mother.
Do what you need to do to be able to get your studies in and I am sure things will work out for the best for you.
I always believe that good things come to good people, and you are obviously good people.
Darryl S.
2006-11-16 16:23:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Just ask her to sit down for a discussion about your future and tell her your studies must come first and maybe both of you can work out an arrangement for your studies and the work you do for her.And be sure to pray about it first. I will honestly keep you in my prayers
2006-11-16 16:17:13 · answer #6 · answered by gingerbell 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Your mom should really understand...and I know where you're coming from in some ways because there are things that parents should understand and you really want them to....but if you don't think she can/will....you will just have to take a stand and focus on your studies anyway.
2006-11-16 16:56:13 · answer #7 · answered by sarah 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Do you have a library or recreation center to retreat to for your studies. You can tell your mother you are going to do social work that does not pay and get your work done. Your education will pay off for years to come. And you wont have to serve those who do not understand. Best of luck.
Mikey
2006-11-16 16:13:26 · answer #8 · answered by mikeypio 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you shouldn't be afraid to stand up for your self and make decisions for yourself. If your studies are most important say so. Have a backbone girl. There is such a thing as being too polite.God wouldn't want to be so torn inside.
2006-11-16 16:22:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
God doesn't expect us to be doormats. Run and get a copy of the book, Boundaries by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend.
2006-11-16 16:11:49 · answer #10 · answered by pinkee 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋