I have a friend that constantly talks about herself, always complains about how she feels (she never feels good), always takes anything I start talking about and turns it into talking about herself (ALWAYS-NO LIE), tells me she is going to name her soon to be born kid after my ex husband that did me wrong and after a guy I had a major crush on that never liked me for its first and middle name, and who wants constant reassurance that I still am her friend even thought she acts the way she does and apologizes for how she acts all the time.....what should I do about her? She drains me. I'm not a mean person and I dont know what her deal is and what to do.
2006-11-16 16:01:37 · 12 answers · asked by coolchic 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
She is getting married in two days and Im in her wedding. She wants me to make a speech. Would it be wrong of me to decline...she is very persistant and will probably drive me nuts...
2006-11-16 16:15:14 · update #1
Keep showing respect, but maybe you should decrease the amount of time you spend with her. Know your limits and boundaries so that you dont let her drain you. I can imagine how difficult it must be, but you have to look after yourself.
2006-11-16 16:10:07 · answer #1 · answered by its_just_me 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not a mean person either but I can't see myself remaining friends with someone that, in some way or another, brings drama. She just has too many issues and I think that your life would be alot 'less' stressful without her. And this is not to say that she is not a good person, she is just not good for you. Good luck.
2006-11-17 00:10:25 · answer #2 · answered by shellese2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So sorry to hear =/ but frankly, she's self-centered and brings you down by the things that she does with no regard to your feelings. Either tell her b/c she is going to have to learn sometime or just quit talking to her and avoid her crap all together. I know both decisions are tough, but if you want it to go away, you have to act. Good luck.
2006-11-17 00:09:55 · answer #3 · answered by .:miss:. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you say you're not mean, but it sounds like you're being pretty mean to yourself by allowing her to drag herself all over the place with your strength. ditch her immediately. do NOT explain yourself. she knows you and will try to talk her way into being needy and really, really, really, really needing you at this time in her life, etc. let her find someone else to suck the life out of. unless you TRULY want to give her your life, then quit giving it to her. you have to sever all ties and do it without getting into a bunch of explanations or reasonings--else she will loop you back in or somehow turn it on how you are responsible for her, which you are NOT. run, girlfriend! there are supportive friends out there who care about YOU and make it easy to care about THEM because they're not a vast sea of human need. best of luck!
2006-11-17 00:09:11 · answer #4 · answered by Hot Lips 4077 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hopefully these are pregnancy hormones and she will be back to normal soon. if she was like this before she became pregnant then you need to let her know she can not talk to you that way or disrespect you anymore. do not put up with being treated badly by anyone, especially by a "friend"
2006-11-17 00:09:15 · answer #5 · answered by justme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be a good listener.
Hear all what she is saying and smile even if she complaint,Bcoz she dont know that everbody have problem in their lives. She is not metured. Be a good friend for her and understand him slowly.
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2006-11-17 00:13:04 · answer #6 · answered by mrkannan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
haha... your friend sounds like one of my friends. just be frank with her and tell her how you feel about how she always talks about herself all the time. she doesnt have to have the limelight all the time. you may appear rude and she might feel offended about it but at least you've been honest to her... just go gently.
2006-11-17 00:15:51 · answer #7 · answered by DruNkStripPeR 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to let her know how you feel. let her know that you don't appreciate it and you won't stand for it and mean it. this has nothing to do with you being a mean person. don't let anyone disrespect you ever. she doesn't sound like a true friend. these kind of people need to realize what they do to other people. so let her know.
2006-11-17 00:09:42 · answer #8 · answered by jahrells 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her how you feel... don't let it get to the point where you snap and do become that mean person you don't want to be. the truth is the way to go... it may hurt her now but you can just tell her its the hormones!!! lol but seriously... she needs to kno
2006-11-17 00:06:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmmm.... sounds like an insensitive friend. she seeems too busy with herself to be dealing with any other frineds. you can find better companionship. good luck
2006-11-17 00:08:39 · answer #10 · answered by Meeowf 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋