Should i leave after 4 years??

Question

I have been with my boyfriend for 4 years and we have never had a fight but last nite we had a big fight and he hit me and i hit him but it has never happened like that wat do u think i should do

Answer 1

leave while you still can before he tries to sucker you in with i'm sorry ect, if he was mad enough to hit you once more than likely he will do it again...

Answer 2

You said he hit you and you hit him..was it in that order?
the reason I am asking this is because everyone assumes on here that he hit you first.
He shouldn't be hitting you and you shouldn't be hitting him. Boys usually grow up hearing " don't hit girls" That is so true but most girls don't grow up hearing "don't hit boys"!
I am not saying your the first one to hit it's just this is a subject I feel strongly about!
I have been around women that have hit their boyfriends/husbands and then go crying to their family and friends when he hits her back!
I think if a woman can dish it out she should be able to take it!!
Now sorry back to your question.. they say once someone hits you they will do it again..Usually true..but I have seen the opposite as well..Was drugs or booze involved? Sometimes when people are over the edge they do things they normally wouldn't.. I would say that since you have been together 4 years ,and nothing has happened like this before than you 2 need to talk ,and figure out how it got so out of control, and agree that it won't happen again, and if it does someone is going to jail and it's OVER!!

Answer 3

Hit the road. Never stay with anyone that will hit you. Leave before you have kids!

Answer 4

No I don't think you should leave after one incident in four years. But you really need to talk to him seriously about it. Apologize to eachother and vow to never let it happen again. Make a plan to not allow it to happen again. If you get too angry you'll have to stop and leave until you cool down. Go to anger management if you feel it's necessary. If it continues to happen , then leave.

Answer 5

its hard to say not knowing the whole story. Hitting is never cool. My husband hit me once and the threw a plant at me too. It only happened one time and that was 11 years ago. so its hard to say what you should do. I guess its corney advice but listen to your heart and you will know what to do.

Answer 6

that is not a good sign. the second time might be easier to initiate. i want to say GO and go now. if you decide to stay, get out if either he or you hits the other. maybe you would find this book helpful: " Why does he do that? inside the minds of angry and controlling men" by lundy bancroft. maybe this book would pertain to you, maybe not, but if it does, you will learn more than you ever would realize. good luck

Answer 7

wow you need to ask yourself if you have felt this in him before. you can usually tell in your heart if someone wants to smack or hit you while you are having an argument. if you have felt that kind of tension before with him or witnessed it with him when he has confrontations with others. then maybe you should think about getting counseling or leaving.

Answer 8

if a guy hits you once. he'll do it again. trust me. my dad started off that way. then my mom did it to me. so yea, its a cycle. id leave. the hell with four years. if the ***** beating you , get the hell out.(escuse my french honestly) cause its only gonna get worse.

Answer 9

if it happen once it could happen again I would leave because I love myself too much for that.No man is ever going to hit me!!

Answer 10

why are you still there..... waiting for the next 4 years so he can hit you again.... runnnnnnnnnnnnnnnn....... abuse is never the answer