Once upon a time there was this guy. I know I'm young and all but him him, I found love. What I had with him could never be matched with another person. Well, this past spring I messed up REALLY bad and he wound up leaving me for someone else. But lately, we've been texting a lot and even more recently we've been talking...a lot more and I love it, despite the wishes of his new girlfriend, of course. He told his girlfriend that he'd never speak to me again but he broke that promise and now that their broken up I'm left in the dark of what to do. Of course I love this guy with all of my heart but I don't want to get my hopes up and get too attached again. Honestly, it's a long distance relationship and he keeps telling me he's coming soon and I don't know what to do. I'm not sure if he wants to get back together or not and I'm not sure if I'm ready to do so either. I need a second opinion. I'm stuck in a rut of confusion and mixed emotions. Help!?
2006-11-16 15:35:54 · 20 answers · asked by silence_within_chaos 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
with out knowing why you broke up in the first place its really hard to give advice here/ all i can say is if you love him as much as you say you do then go for it b/c true love doesnt come around everyday
good luck and smile big no matter what happens
2006-11-16 15:42:19 · answer #1 · answered by Shorty 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You found love, but you messed it up. Maybe the problem is like you said, you are still young. I think you honestly need to think about your life. What do you want out of it? You were probably not ready for the commitment part of the relationship. You have so much life in you, and you probably want to do alot of things. Being in love with someone entails so much. You must be there for that person, no matter what. Not to be with any one else. No matter what there faults, you love them still, and forgive them.
Unselfishly you do things for them, even change for them. Make time for each other to communicate, even listening to what they have to say concerning you. Honesty is very important.
If you are ready for all this, then I'm sure even the distance won't matter. But a relationship cannot last forever, if you don't see each other. We all have experienced heart break out there, it is painful. But time will heal all wounds. Do you honestly know if your ex won't go back to his girlfriend? Well give him time, because he just ended a relationship, and running to another will not be good. Both of you need to prove to each other that you are ready for this again. Give it time, and I hope you make the right decision soon.
2006-11-16 15:57:35 · answer #2 · answered by woman of steel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U achieved what u wanted Him, now u're backing out after u got him dumped by his girlfriend and u r having mixed feelings after professing how much u love him. U r leading him on. U r the one confused and all messed up. Get it straight before he makes the long trip for nothing. Get ur head together and decide once and for all that he is the one u want and that u both will do everything in both ur powers to make this relationship work no matter if u were on opposite sides of the Earth. Love has no boundaries and love is eternal and can wait for their true love no matter how long it took without cheating or games like u r doing. So wake up and smell the coffee girl it's obvious he cares and so do u, stop torturing ur self.
2006-11-16 15:48:23 · answer #3 · answered by papabeartex 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a friend who experienced a relationship like that only it was the guy who messed up. He also lives in another state from her, she said she would take him back and he was supposed to come and see her. He never did. Don't get your hopes up and don't get hurt. The only true thing u can do for u and him is to telll him exactly how u feel and ask him for the same response. If he is commited then he will make definite plans to work out this relationship.
2006-11-16 15:46:01 · answer #4 · answered by Elspbeth 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You know that saying that age ain't nothin but a number, well thats a crock for your situation, because it all depends on how old you are. I will say that if you are 21 and under...remain friends, but leave him alone and find someone else. If you are over 21, you can take him or leave him depending on what you are willing to sacrifice in this long distance relationship.
2006-11-16 15:42:45 · answer #5 · answered by outspoken 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think that you should bring up to him how you used to date-and that it would be nice if you guys could give your relationship a second chance.He will probably feel less stress and if it doesn't work out between you both go un-embarresed and you can both say you at least tryed.And with that,if you don't feel like you want to try it out then you both can just be friends.
2006-11-16 15:49:01 · answer #6 · answered by sunshinee<3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is just like lime stone. To who does know how to precious them then only the stone will have the best value, so as love. For my comment to you is know and understand him well first, start from bottom( friend) first. Even thou you feel that you already understand him but still now start with new again.. then only you will tell yourself whether is he the one you really want to have till your dying day
2006-11-16 16:00:33 · answer #7 · answered by ronanlyk 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well in my opinoin if he is a great guy then id say go for it but he did break the promise to the other girl so if you could make sure he wont break the same kind of things with you then id say dont let love slip away
2006-11-16 15:43:29 · answer #8 · answered by you dont know me 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What did you "do" to "mess uo really bad"? If it's true love, there is very little that will cause a couple to break up. There certainly isn't confusion& if he has moved on to another girl but yet is "talking " to youwhy would you want him? He will just do it to you again. Forget it & move on with your life.
2006-11-16 15:45:05 · answer #9 · answered by Sarah 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
hey i've been there recently....i really love my boyfriend he broke up to me 2 years b4 ..and during those 2 years my love for him never did fade away..even i'm with another man...so when i broke up with another bf...this guy asked me out again but broke up to me soon and wants to know if he is ready...but after how many days he asked me if i still love him and i said yes...and now were back in each others arms forever..i'm so happy ..dont you want to be happy?? know what if you really love this guy and you cant love anyone more than you love him.then if he ask you to be his girl again go for it..that chance may not be given to you again and that would be ur greatest regret...go for it ...so you'll be happy ..i'm going to pray for you *goodluck*
2006-11-16 15:50:01 · answer #10 · answered by LaDy in Luv 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋