My parents are getting a divorce.
They are splitting their money and selling the house. What do I do?!?!?!
2006-11-16 15:33:13 · 7 answers · asked by :] 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well hun I have been through this twice with my parents so i can sympathise with you. First, you must realize that you are not at fault at all. There is nothing you can do to fix it, and there is nothing you did to cause it. It is a change, and it is going to affect you. However, it does not mean that neither one of your parents do not love you. They are just going to make themselves happier. Sometimes, as I have learned twice now things just happen, and in the long run I promise everyone will be more happier.
2006-11-16 15:40:33 · answer #1 · answered by EternalBlueMemory 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry to hear that. This has to be very hard for you. Just remember that there is nothing you can do, because the divorce is not about you. It's not your fault, you didn't cause it, and this also means you can't mend it. So do your best to maintain the best relationship you can with your parents. IYou can make it through this. Get support from people that care about you and avoid letting your parents try to pit you against the other. You didn't do this, they did. You should not have to a a referee or choose a side. Again, I'm so sorry. I know this is not easy.
2006-11-16 15:43:08 · answer #2 · answered by JamesWilliamson 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be supportive, but don't take sides. You'll figure things out as it goes along. There are things you'll not get a choice in, most likely, and some you will.
Hang in there. Maybe talk to a counseller or another member of the family. You'll need an outlet that will not repeat what you tell them about your feelings, and your doubts.
Best of luck to you. I'm genuinely sorry you have to pay this price for someone else's problems.
2006-11-16 15:41:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask them if they had mixed feelings in the past and if they stayed together for the family. My parents stayed together through some tough times that in today's world would have ended in a divorce many years ago. They are still together today. My family has not seen a divorce since coming to America in the 1920's.
Mikeypio
2006-11-16 16:26:45 · answer #4 · answered by mikeypio 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Know that this is a challenge that will make you - and your parents better and stronger for going through it. It might not seem that way now - but you will make it through this.
Its not about you - but you're involved anyway. Don't keep your feelings in, talk about them with your pastor, a counselor or someone you trust...or us ;-).
You love your parents for who they are...the good and the bad. Until you are so much older, you won't even come close to trying to understand what they are going through. And, you are not even seeing half of it. You see what they can't keep from you. They are hurting just as much and just as deep as you are. Trust me, they are.
In the end...always, always remember - they truly love you.
2006-11-16 15:47:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What can you do? Request counseling, and take care of yourself. Don't get caught in the middle. Don't take sides. Don't blame yourself.
2006-11-16 17:57:35 · answer #6 · answered by Carey L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let them know your concerns, and what you want to do. depending on where they move to, it could affect where you live, where you go to school, etc. so voice your opinion! they can't help if they don't know that you're upset!
2006-11-16 15:39:13 · answer #7 · answered by Lauren 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋