i feel like i love him so much......and the thought of letting him go hurts...............even though i know he isnt any good for me......does that sound stupid?
2006-11-16 15:31:07 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i can undeerstand, i was wit a guy i KNEW wasnt rite for me for 4 years....i was crazy abt him and d mere thought of losing him made me sick...after 4 years he dumped me coz he had another girl he liked more..i hurt so bad....but i survived, but i know it wud have been much better for my self respect if i had listened to my head and dumped him earlier,....hurt u will b, but better tht u take d initiative now then later, tht will hurt more..
2006-11-16 15:51:57 · answer #1 · answered by danny's mom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't sound stupid. I think most of us have a guy like that at one point in our lives. We know he's bad for us, but we want him so much. I don't know why we do it, but I do know that we spend too much of our precious time on men like this. The best thing to do is let him go before it gets too bad. Yes it'll hurt, but in two years you'll look back and say, "God, what was wrong with me? I must have been an idiot." Don't wait until you've spent too many years on him and you feel stuck.
2006-11-16 23:39:32 · answer #2 · answered by ammellisa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would rather be hurt now, than after i married him, if u feel or have a gut feeling he isn't good for u, than bail out now, before u get in any deeper with him. it sounds a bit immature not stupid at all, depends alot on your age and range of experience, we were all young once,and only through experience or advice we gained knowledge. your not stupid, just immature. there must be some reason u feel he isn't going to be good for u, and i would pay attention to it, and move on to a safer relationship.
2006-11-16 23:50:32 · answer #3 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have surrounded your llife with a lot of negativesness; yourself selfesteem has reached a piked....Take it from someone who perhaps young in age, though not self experienced....Lived with parents who argued a lot. My dad abused my mom, not only verbally and mentally; but physically as well.....Perhaps this may not be your situation, but a relationship build in distrust, or having to be affraid or be emotionally abused is no good for anyone it could only lead to mental break-downs like my mom had; or tragedy ...Take it from someone who at my tender age had to stop going to day school so I could help my mom. My father is in Puerto Rico with someone else. All those years my mom endured for what for the seek of the children, or for what ever th reason get out now if you have so much hurt its not healthy believe me. God bless take care.
2006-11-17 00:44:58 · answer #4 · answered by Sam 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you really in love with him or are you in love with the idea of being in love...just asking because if he was truly no good he would be treating you like crap and if that's the case, i know you're not in love with someone that treats you badly...anyway, girls always tend to fall for the bad guys and most times we fall for them hard. i think its a few reasons why...partly because we for some reason want to believe that they will love us so much that they will change, we want to be the one that will tame them with our love, and too... the relationship with them is an adventure...they are unpredictable and some women love the "drama" that comes along with him being no good....crazy but its the raw truth...so no you dont sound stupid, you just sound like a woman in love with the wrong man...it happens more times than just a few
2006-11-16 23:50:30 · answer #5 · answered by huneygrl1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it doesn't sound stupid lots of girls go through this. If you have a feeling that he isn't good for you then you are probably right. do what your gut tells you. let go if you don't feel comfortable or safe.
2006-11-16 23:39:29 · answer #6 · answered by signalfirst 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not stupid because love is blind. I married a biker chick 37 years ago. I'm still with her , still love her. She is meaner than tiger spit and twice as tough. But she loves me and I her. I guess I'm saying if this guys loves you too don't let go until you are sure.
2006-11-16 23:54:58 · answer #7 · answered by 10 to 20 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he :
Doesn't respect you.
Has ANGER outbursts and yells at you.
Ignores you when you want to talk....
then u shouldn't be with him....it is ONLY an attachment ...and attachments equal to suffering. It is not love anymore, is it?
Good luck to you! When we let go, we appreciate the change... a new beginning--a new chapter..You will always find better..
2006-11-17 04:04:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it sound stupid, but being in love puts you in the trans where the hope governs and not reason.
2006-11-16 23:37:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO........that not been stupid,that is been smart.........you are smart enough to know now than later.I am sure it hard but you will get over him,just think of the your life to come ,don't waist your time with some one if they are not the one,I say say good bye....cry.....but your heart will heal,there are lots of good man out there you will find the one to make happy & you love him too.......so cheer up & get rid of him don't waist your time ......good luck.
2006-11-17 11:59:03 · answer #10 · answered by Jazzy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋