I like her as a friend but not in that way. I've already told her that I was not interested in women that way. I hate to loose her as a friend but she makes me feel very uncomfortable by the looks she gives me and the conversations that we have.
2006-11-16 15:16:23 · 20 answers · asked by Sammy 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
if she makes you uncomfortable let her know. if you've done that and it still happens, maybe its time to walk away from the friendship. if she doesn't respect you enough to respect the fact that you aren't interested its prolly not worth saving in the first place.
2006-11-16 15:25:16 · answer #1 · answered by riot grrrl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have been in the same situation.
Hugs were always a bit uncomfortable for me, sometimes I felt awkward from the look she was giving me, etc...
But I am in engaged (to a male), and she understands this, so she eventually backed off.
She still tells me how she feels about me occasionally, and I thank her for the compliments, but explain to her that she should maybe concentrate on finding someone who would be willing to start a relationship with her...
we are still good friends, though.
If you haven't already, I would try explaining how YOU feel to her.
It really shouldn't offend her. Hopefully she understands. :)
2006-11-16 23:25:28 · answer #2 · answered by *MissNic 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try writing her a letter In person you are uncomfortable Write down your feelings and be sure to include you value her friendship - But you will have to distance yourself if she keeps flirting and such- Set your boundaries and be firm
But In a letter she can react in private and maybe think on it before reacting- Also make sure she knows you care about her and wish for her the best- Be kind, you probably are a dear person to her and she just wants more than you can give...
Good luck
2006-11-16 23:29:49 · answer #3 · answered by admiredi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you told her how you felt and want to retain her as a friend. That says a lot about you.
If she is still trying to interest you in her, then she's not respecting you as a person. At this point, tell her openly and honestly that you hoped you made it clear that your'e not interested, but you feel as though she's pushing past boundaries you've set. Tell her you want to stay friends, but it's getting uncomfortable and you really need her to back off a bit.
That's all you can do. At this point, it's up to her.
2006-11-16 23:23:04 · answer #4 · answered by tagi_65 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This kind of thing is always a bit awkward. But it's the same as if a guy loves you and you're not interested. She'll have to accept it as a fact and if she can't it may be difficult to continue the friendship.
2006-11-17 08:15:28 · answer #5 · answered by meiguanxi :) 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Learn to deal with it, eventually she'll get over you. She can't help how she feels but she needs try and move on. If she looks at you like that then ask her not to and if you don't like a conversation change the subject.
2006-11-16 23:34:29 · answer #6 · answered by Rageling 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no difference between how you act with any specific gender - either you are interested or not and sometimes it is not possible to keep a friendship when a person has a crush on you no matter what sex they are.
2006-11-16 23:32:45 · answer #7 · answered by Realty Shark 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Treat her the same as you would a guy in this situation. Tell her you really only like her as a friend. If she fails to get the hint, I guess you might just have to avoid her till she gets over her crush on you.
2006-11-16 23:28:16 · answer #8 · answered by BabyBear 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is her friendship so important? Sometimes people are assumed to be as the company they keep. So are you really kidding yourself and don't want to admit you have lesbian tendencies? If you are straight you need to choose another friend. If the girl looks at you like "that" it ain't gonna change.
2006-11-16 23:27:11 · answer #9 · answered by Sage 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
How would you handle it if she were not a lesbian, but if it was a guy? Whether or not she is a lesbian doesn't really matter. Just tell her what you said, you hate to lose her as a friend but you like guys. If you would distance yourself from a guy who did what she does then do that.
2006-11-16 23:23:38 · answer #10 · answered by thrill88 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋