My wife left me in early May of this year. I NEVER saw it coming,we've been married for 27yrs! I am by no means a rich man ,always worked hard and raised two children on one salary all of that time. She now lives with her 'princess' of a sister in a fabulous home in the country in northern Ontario. She recently E-mailed me to tell me to send her $400 a month. She said she deserved it. She went to the local Welfare office up there to see if they would give her money.
Needless to say, they weren't very pleasant with her.But just the same the Welfare ppl threaten to 'garnish' my pay in order to make me support her still.
She left....I never sent her away. Pls. be nice and don't joke about my predicament...what i'm hoping to get here ,are some serious points of view...I know nothing about 'legal' matters. Thanks to you all. : )
2006-11-16 14:38:36 · 4 answers · asked by leadguitarplay 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She can take you to court and try to get an order for spouse support but they will be interested in why she doesn't have a job.How old are the children?If they are underaged, you may be required to pay child support. If you have to pay spousal support, it will only be for a while, which will be the reasonable amount of time the Judge think she will need in order to find a job.
2006-11-16 15:20:22 · answer #1 · answered by RoxieC 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look up the laws for alimoney in your area. Having been married 27 years in most states will entitle her to spousal support. Usually the laws have specific guidelines tho as to what would make her qualify for it.
If she is capable of earning money equal to what you made when you supported her, then they will not give her that much. Basically alimony is so that the divorced spouse can continue the same quality of life they had while married to you. If she is uneducated or disabled etc, you will have no choice but to pay her.
Just look on the net for alimony laws in your area, if I knew your area I would look for a link for you....just do some research, but I do know that having been married that long, you most likely will be legally bound, even if she left you... doesnt seem fair.. but its the law.
2006-11-17 02:23:02 · answer #2 · answered by Tawny Amber 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It kind of sounds like the kids are grown, since you said you ‘raised 2 children’ (past tense) and then you didn’t mention them after that?
Who told you the welfare people threaten to garnish your wages? Them or her? She’s not ‘entitled’ to receive spousal support from you unless a judge orders it.
Talk to an attorney before you send her a dime.
2006-11-16 23:31:45 · answer #3 · answered by kp 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are their minor children involved? If so the courts will decide how much you pay for them. If there are no kids I would not pay her a dime until I got something from a governmental agency.
Best of luck finding someone better then her!
2006-11-16 23:27:55 · answer #4 · answered by ferretcoach 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋