I have an ex boyfriend that I loaned money to. He and I are great friends, well sometimes we are great friends. He gets moody and there are times when he isn't the nicest person when he talks to me. He recently started seeing a girl and that is fine but I also would like to get some of my money paid back. Problem is he will accuse me of being jealous or of our friendship having a catch if I bring up starting payments. How do I bring up the touchy subject of repaying money without seeming like there are conditions. He makes me feel like I am a bad friend for asking him to be responsible and pay me back. Help.
2006-11-16 14:00:06 · 11 answers · asked by A. C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
i dont know what you can do now except ask for it and hope that you get it...BUT in the furture..NEVER lend money unless it is money you can afford to lose!
2006-11-16 14:02:43 · answer #1 · answered by never2pink 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately I don't think you are going to see your money back any time soon if ever. It's probably going to cost you the "friendship" if you push the issue, but then again somebody who will borrow money from ya and then back out of it isn't all that great of a friend or boyfriend anyway. Take the loss, lose the overgrown 3 yr old leech and learn a hard life lesson : )
2006-11-16 22:08:39 · answer #2 · answered by Tony S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bad situation. The only way to see about getting your money is to hit it head on. Tell him how it makes you feel. If he starts down the jealousy path tell him it's not true. If you can't seem to talk to him after that he is evading you. I'm sorry to say it but I think your money is gone. I hope it wasn't too much. If you can't get the money back you need to decide what is more important, your feelings about it or your friend. My dad always told me never loan more than you can afford to lose. I hope everything works out for you.
2006-11-16 22:07:49 · answer #3 · answered by yay_boxes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him like it is that when you let someone borrow your cash that person needs to pay it back!
if he accuses you of being jealous then tell him to get a life cause your not!
you're not a bad friend for asking it back that is what i would do
and to bring it up say you know that money i loaned you and you never paid me back well i kinda need it back.
2006-11-16 22:09:24 · answer #4 · answered by *~brit~* 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let this be a lesson to you do not loan money to friends or family with the expectation of getting it back, try keeping the loans under two hundred, that way it is not sorely missed...
2006-11-16 22:04:42 · answer #5 · answered by Thomas 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How much does he owe you? You have to decide if the amount is worth the friendship. If it's a lot, you may have to seek legal advice to get your money back, but that will definitely ruin the friendship. Good luck.
2006-11-16 22:03:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you need your money back and it is time for him to pay you back. Then don't loan him any more. Before you know it he will be asking you for another loan.
2006-11-16 22:16:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Borrow money from him, a little at a time until you have it all back, $20 here $50 there!
2006-11-16 22:03:01 · answer #8 · answered by shannonscreativechaos 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him times are getting tough for you and you need to get presents for your family for the holidays, and add something else like your car needs repairs, or you got tickets, or you need dental work, or something good that might sound like you have problems and you need his help. Do remind him that you lend him money.
2006-11-16 22:04:20 · answer #9 · answered by Ankit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you're really short on cash for the holiday season, could he get the money back to you? You really want to start shopping.
I don't think he can argue with that.
2006-11-16 22:02:26 · answer #10 · answered by kiddo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋