I am pregnant, and last time I was pregnant my husband made lewd comments about my body(1 year and a half ago). I won't get naked in front of him, because that made me insecure. He gets angry saying he was only joking. He had commented on how my butt spread out, the layers of fat on my legs ect.ect.
2006-11-16 13:54:12 · 21 answers · asked by sky 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
what an idiot! you don't say stuff like that, not even jokingly. you're gaining weight because you're carrying HIS child. just return the favor, tell him since you are the pregnant one you're bound to gain weight, what's his excuse? besides, since you're not feeling like he is attracted to you, there is no way you can be in the mood...
don't listen to him, pregnant women are gorgeous!
2006-11-16 14:10:08 · answer #1 · answered by gabriela 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW!
You know your husband should talk to me.... I am 36 years old and really have my stuff together for a guy, good job, nice home, boat, car, Truck etc.etc. My girl told me five years ago that she didnt want to have kids anymore because she already has two almost grown and that she didnt want to be tied down again. I made the decision to stay with her anyway because I love her so much. for a woman to carry a mans baby i think is the ultimate gift she could give and if she did that for me I would just cherish every moment of her not critcize her. Your husband really needs to wake the hell up because clearly he doesnt get it. he probably doesnt look like he did when he was 21 either and should be reminded of that. Best of luck to you.........
2006-11-16 22:44:17 · answer #2 · answered by Rod G 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he is very uncaring and insensitive when it comes to your emotional state. Being pregnant is hard enough on the body and mind without having the person who is supposed to love you the most make you feel insecure and anything less than beautiful. You NEED to sit down and talk to him...explain to him how hurt you were about what he said about your body, and tell him you want his love and support not is criticism.
2006-11-16 22:21:20 · answer #3 · answered by missapparition 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, it isn't normal. It's rude. He better be nicer to you and that baby!!! Or he can sleep on the floor...like a dog!! lol
Some guys just say things they shouldn't. Sometimes they are jerks. I don't blame you for not wanting to show off your body in front of him now. (He doesn't deserve to anyway after what he said! lol) Don't give him any sex for a week and see how cute his sense of humor is then!! :-) Congratulations!!
2006-11-16 23:17:56 · answer #4 · answered by Jenna 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You do have good reason to be upset and even a bit insecure....but try not to let it affect you too much. Though I am not condoning what he said....he may infact be telling the truth...maybe he was kidding. And trust me...I think there is nothing more beutiful on earth than the look of a woman when she is carrying a precious life within. Walk tall and keep your chin up....You've been blessed...and thats all that matters.
2006-11-16 22:00:06 · answer #5 · answered by Reneg@de 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Your past makes your future! So him telling you this all before has now made you insecure. Don't worry about him. Having a child is the greatest thing.
2006-11-16 22:44:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i think he blew it ...he's your man, a man you thought you could trust and love and that he loves everything about you ,but when you were already noticing your body not being like it use to be , that's when he should have showed you that he loved your body and tried to make you feel wanted still ...congadulations on the new one :)
2006-11-16 22:14:26 · answer #7 · answered by Bob 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't have a reason to get mad...he was the jerk that made you feel bad! As far as it being normal....well my son's dad did that to me and I ended the relationship b/c of it. Myhusband however was as sweet as could be when I gained 50 lbs with our daughter. So I guess for jerks it's normal.
2006-11-16 21:58:10 · answer #8 · answered by . 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shame on him-at a time when you should feel most beautiful.His "sense of humor" needs major improvement.If you do feel like being intimate,buy some maternity lingerie as a compromise.
2006-11-16 23:01:17 · answer #9 · answered by maykithapin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, its very passive agressive behavior, he needs counseling, It may be jealousy, faiirly common in some men butnot nessesrily normal and definitly not OK
He's being very mean and you dont deserve that! You and your baby are very precious and should be treated that way!
2006-11-16 22:40:44 · answer #10 · answered by spinner4567 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋