Hi, I'm a junior in High school. I have a group of friends that I'm constantly in touch with. All of us are acclaimed Christians, but slowly, they've fallen from Christ. Now I'm the only one left who's dedicated to Christ and still a virgin. Is sex really worth the wait? Do any of you regret having sex before marriage? I know God wants me to wait, so I will strive to please Him; but I need some advice for my friends. Please help me!
2006-11-16 13:52:37 · 25 answers · asked by Savannah 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I was a friends with a lot of Christian girls in high school as well (went to youth groups and all of that) and I wanted to wait until I got married also, but I gave in. At the time I thought "eh, who cares? What's the big deal?" Well here I am now... just got married 2 years ago and I'm really regretting those decisions now. I truly believe that God knew what He was doing when He said to wait until marriage... because it's so different after you're married (at least for me it was). The deep emotional bond is like nothing else I've felt in my life with anyone. I say wait if you've come this far already, it's so worth it. If I could turn back time and change things, I would have most definitely waited. For sure.
2006-11-16 13:57:30 · answer #1 · answered by Peach 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes its worth the wait. I can honestly say I wished I had waited before I had sex. I only did it because I wanted to see what the big deal was, now I wish I had waited. Don't know if I would have waited for marriage, but I wished I had waited until I found the right guy to give my virginity to. But I can't get it back, so I tell others that they should wait until they find the right person.
2006-11-16 21:59:08 · answer #2 · answered by shantiqua_99 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's something that is entirely up to you. If you friends weren't having sex would you want to. Sex is something that everyone has a different opinion about and i personally, think you should wait. Now the question about it being worth the wait, I can't answer because I'm a virgin too, but alot of my friends tell me they wish they would have waited.
2006-11-16 21:56:16 · answer #3 · answered by kelsey 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is interesting to me that the ones that aren't virgins have fallen away from Our Lord. That should tell you something. Jessica Simpson had very few friends and I am proud of her as I am of you. You are a delight and God's pride and joy. It is worth the wait, you will have a husband to respect you.. It will be as God wants. You can tell your friends that you are going to wait and that God will forgive them if they stop living in sin. No matter what you hear it really is an unhappy experience without marriage.
2006-11-16 22:01:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Yes sex is worth the wait. If you are committed to being a virgin when you marry then keep your virginity. Tell your friends how you fell and tell them you are not judging them so don't judge you. Tell them to respect your decision. You have to stand for something or you will fall for anything.
2006-11-19 10:15:41 · answer #5 · answered by Future 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are too young to have sex. I too am a Christian and I lost my virginity at 19 to someone I realized never cared about me. I just "wanted to get it over with." I was depressed for two years after that. I always felt dirty. I wouldn't say wait until you are married but definitely wait until you are SURE it's the right person.
2006-11-16 21:56:31 · answer #6 · answered by IKEA freak 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i've been waiting a long time.. sometimes i wonder if it is worth the wait.. but you know, so many friends have told me they regretted not waiting.. so that gives me enough to want to wait.
the thought of going through that entire special experience together with someone you know will be your only one and will be the one you wil be with forever.. it's a dream that is worth the wait for sure..
i came very close to doing it a few times, but i just couldn't go thru with it. i knew it wasn't the right decision.. and those experiences really made me realize that waiting was the right thing to do..
if your saving yourself because of faith in christianity, then that's great, but also do it for yourself too. hang in there and be proud and don't ever give in to pressure..
2006-11-16 22:01:22 · answer #7 · answered by Jeff 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm in Jr high to, and i really truelly believe it's worth the wait. Dont give in to your peers stand tall. I am also a christian, and i believe tht if ur friends cant accept you for being true to your faith, then stay friendly to them, but ge some new friends too
2006-11-16 21:56:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Me and my friends are all christians but most of them have had sex. I haven't. I'm sure it's worth it to wait. I wish I wouldn't have even messed around. If you wait, you are assured that your husband is the best lover that you have ever had and you will pretty much always be satisfied.
2006-11-16 21:54:43 · answer #9 · answered by Amilucky0707 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Savannah, you need to ask yourself "Do I want to be a teen Mother?" You obviously come from a secure background, one that is centered in Christ, there is a little saying..."What would Jesus do?" Keep on Keepin on, respect yourself and don't waive from what you believe in......trust me, it's not worth it.....
A mother at 16!
2006-11-16 21:56:24 · answer #10 · answered by shannonscreativechaos 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋