My husband and I have been married just over a year. I am in my early 20s and he is in mid 20s. My family really wanted me to finish college before I had a baby. We are both in school, but not finished. Should I shock them on Thanksgiving?
2006-11-16 13:14:51 · 22 answers · asked by newmamamc 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
My husband and I have been married just over a year. I am in my early 20s and he is in mid 20s. My family really wanted me to finish college before I had a baby. We are both in school, but not finished. Should I shock them on Thanksgiving? I'm afraid that my lack of appetite will give me away anyway.
2006-11-17 02:24:27 · update #1
Please Please be careful. It is early days for your pregnancy. Wait until you have gotton comfortable with the news before you get the family all up in arms. Your pregnancy is the best blessing you can recieve, not a shocking tidbit that goes great with turkey. Best of luck with your peanut.
2006-11-16 13:19:12 · answer #1 · answered by sparklepup 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My first pregnancy I kept the cat in the bag that whole first trimester. It was so hard!! :(( But, I was worried about miscarrying.
However, I'm eight weeks pregnant at Thanksgiving too. And, I have a shirt for my son to wear that says on the back,
"I have a big surprise"
the front
"I'm going to be a BIG brother"
I think you could do it now. But, make sure your parents and immediate family know you don't want anyone else to know. That way you can spill the beans, but make sure Aunt Claire doesn't say "Hows the baby" inapporpriately.
Also, Christmas would be great. You could wrap a baby rattle or something. Or, if you have a dog you can buy a doggie sweater that says "Big Sister/Brother". And, there is a great materinty shirt that says "Jingle Belly".
Good Luck!!
2006-11-16 14:09:40 · answer #2 · answered by Baby #3 due 10/13/09 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I would wait and shock everyone at Christmas. You could even get your parents and in-laws Christmas cards from the baby... "Merry Christmas Grandma and Grandpa!"
I've had four healthy children. I had my share of bumps along the pregnancy road, but there was never anything wrong in the pregnancies. This past August I was pregnant for the fifth time. My husband and I were going over ways to announce the pregnancy. We decided that we wanted to wait until I was three months along to tell anyone. We wanted to wait until I reached that time when the risk of miscarriage was greatly decreased. It was a very good thing that I waited. I lost the baby when I was 8 weeks along.
I'm not wishing ill will upon you and I am surely not trying to scare you. But I would wait. If we are blessed again, we are thinking of actually waiting until I'm four months along... just so we feel safer.
Good luck.
2006-11-16 13:26:41 · answer #3 · answered by gonefornow 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the same dilema my husband is 25 and I am 23 and we are expecting our second. With the first one it was not easy to tell them I was 19 when I got pregant with my son I was not working and neither was my husband who was my boyfriend at the time. My parents were furious with me but eventually they came around. I am not sure how to tell them about a second since even though we are married and paying for most of our bills on our own we still get help from them. I do know that I wouldn't put it off to long since its not going to go away any time soon so if you feel that for you Thanksgiving is the right time to tell them then I would tell them maybe if you tell them around alot of family if they do react in an unexpeted way you will have other family members there for support and to talk too.
2006-11-16 13:32:52 · answer #4 · answered by ALLISON B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many women choose to wait until they are through their 1st trimester before announcing the pregnancy to family and friends. However, it's really personal choice. Even if something (God forbid) were to happen, wouldn't you want the support of your family?
Just my opinion. I plan on telling my family the day I find out I'm finally pregnant! :)
2006-11-16 13:27:12 · answer #5 · answered by ezza 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a great day to share the great news. It depends on your preference when you want to tell people. I told my family when I was 8 weeks, some people like to wait til' the end of the first trimester. Whatever you'd like. Plus, it's exciting news and you probably want to share it! Congrats and good luck!
2006-11-16 13:19:47 · answer #6 · answered by shontai 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
most people should wait until after twelve weeks. If you were to suddenly have a miscarriage, you wouldn't really announce that, and it will bring up some uncomfortable, if not heatrbreaking moments when you see someone in the grocery store in seven months and they ask you how your baby is.
after twelve weeks, the chance of a miscarriage is less than one percent.
2006-11-16 13:25:07 · answer #7 · answered by Just Gone 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
depends on how the family will react. are you sure you are pregnant and that everything is ok with the baby? you might want to do something cute for christmas and tell them then. good luck! don't take off too long on college, or you'll never go back.
2006-11-16 13:24:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you use the word "shock" ??
What is....is.
You can still finish college and give your parents a grandchild they should cherish.....even if it's earlier than what THEY wanted.
Live your own life to the best of your ability. Don't think of it as a mistake or a "shock"....it's your baby....no matter who thinks the time is right.
Tell them today.....why wait ???? Be proud and happy.
2006-11-16 13:23:53 · answer #9 · answered by GOOD ANSWER 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think that if you two are both ready to tell them you should when my husband and i told his family about our daughter three years ago was also on thanksgiving everyone is together so you can tell everyone at once,
2006-11-16 14:57:17 · answer #10 · answered by Baby Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋