it was suppose to be a one nite stand,but we cant get enough of each other and im married.but i fell in love with him and my husband will be home soon,what should i do because i know i cant stop being with him.
2006-11-16 13:13:10 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
what do you want to do? what is best for your family? i will not criticize at all. but i will ask this, how much time is this affair taking from your current familial obligations? -
I'm adding on to my original answer - something you need to remember - currently you have the love & support of your husband & family, but darling, lets say you divorce your husband - it is a cold world out there..i'm serious... 'grass always looks greener' .. and if this guy cheated on his existing wife with you, he'll cheat on you with someone else...
leave it as an affair, have fun, absolutely don't get caught, keep your heart out of it, and be careful
there are a lot of people that can get hurt..including extended family, friends, etc...don't make your children statistics ...shuffled from one house to another on Christmas, Thanksgiving...don't do it..please...
2006-11-16 13:17:15 · answer #1 · answered by illinois_girl_1973 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you posting in "trying to conceive" because you are trying to get pregnant with the man you are cheating with?
You're not just cheating on your husband you are cheating on your children. You've made a bad choice and the choices you continue to make will have a huge impact on the rest of your life, your husbands life and your children's life. You are very selfish. No one here can tell you what to do - you wouldn't have cheated (one night stand or otherwise) if you respected your family - only you can make the decision to keep being a selfish, cheating lying __________ (insert your choice of adjective here). Or you can get your self-worth back by getting some integrity and making the right choice.
An addition: I just read on of your other posts. Your husband is coming home from PRISON? Quite a nice little family unit you have here - I guess he doesn't respect your family too much either to do something illegal and put you all at risk. Your poor children - what the hell chance in life do they have - a criminal for a father and a liar and a cheater for a mother?
2006-11-17 12:22:29 · answer #2 · answered by family_matters 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please tell me that your husband is not in the Armed forces and your home being a tramp!
I hope he is in prison for terrible things, in which case you can leave him.
If not, you need to GROW UP and think about YOUR CHILDREN. The minute you became a mom, what you want or think you need became second.
BREAK UP WITH HIM COLD TURKEY. You took vows to your husband. Get some marriage counseling.
I hate Dr. Phil, but I agree with him on this....if you have children, you have no right to get a divorce unless you have tried counseling for at least 6 months....unless you are being beaten or are in danger.
STOP BEING WITH HIM...you're not an animal and consider the pain of losing him your punishment for stepping out on your husband.
A one night stand is supposed to be ok? You openly went out and disregarded your marital vows and betrayed your children as well as your husband.
SELFISH!!!!!!!!
2006-11-16 21:26:05 · answer #3 · answered by jm1970 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, the reason you want to be with this guy is everything is new to you, eventually it will get old and it will be the same old stuff. Secondly, what makes you think he won't cheat on you like he is doing to his wife/girlfriend right now. If you end it with your husband for this reason, you are stupid. You need to start thinking about your kids and not whats between your legs.
2006-11-16 21:59:11 · answer #4 · answered by frr_ls 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't leave your husband and your family. This guy most likely will not do it for you. Then you will be without your children and your husband.
This behavior has to stop. Before you ruin your marriage and childrens chance of having a mom and dad at home.
2006-11-16 21:37:38 · answer #5 · answered by erinjl123456 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all, you need to be honest with your husband and let him go find someone that respects him and his kids. obviously you are a selfish witch, and don't care about any ones feelings but your own. you are hurting not only your husband,but think of what your kids will think of you. if i ever found out my mother was cheating on my father, i would rather live with him. and not only that but i hope you get what you deserve, if hes cheating on you and hes got someone, and you leave your home for him, i hope he does it to you, so you know how both your mates felt when you did it ti them.
2006-11-16 22:48:07 · answer #6 · answered by tsd574 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know, this is very bad. I know the feeling of love but dare not love, i know the pain of cuttng but going back again, pls. Think about your husband and children, make a clear cut decision, or everyone is going to get hurt.
2006-11-16 21:17:23 · answer #7 · answered by jade s 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're in a tough spot. The thing is you put yourself there. What you need to do is let him go. You love your children? Then you should let this guy go. Your family isn't worth losing.
2006-11-16 21:52:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to be honest with each other and figure out what you both really want. Make sure you consider the children's needs first.
2006-11-16 21:18:49 · answer #9 · answered by T Time 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this guy was really in love with you, he would have talked to you about being together permanently by now. He's just using you for sex.
You need to move on and concentrate on your family. They need you more than you need your lover.
2006-11-16 21:18:30 · answer #10 · answered by Hot Pants 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋