I have a girlfriend and we tend to touch each and other things in a very nice and romantic environment (with no penetration).
I tend to estimulate her clitoris and things tend to get very intense. I know time and patiente is essential, so we have no hurrys and just let things flow.
She always gets really really high, like it would happen any moment, she moves and get very crazy untill she sudently gets a peak and just ask me to stop. But it's not a high with contractions or anything.
I had other girlfriends and it was very easy to see that they were having orgasm. They knowed how to get there and I could feel the contractions and all the extasis going on. The orgasm would take a small time in which they had the contrations.
This girlfriends all touched herself.
Now my girlfriend wants me to do it all. She never touched herself and she doesn't want to start (which I respect).
What is happening? What should I do for her to discover the world of orgasm?
2006-11-16 13:05:34 · 7 answers · asked by Orpheus 1 in Health ➔ Women's Health
She could easily be faking it if those contractions are not present. (I'm a woman, but I've never understood the logic in faking it, when that only promotes the very thing that is leaving us unsatisfied.)... Anyway, I'm pressuming your fingers are inside her, and if so, you should be able to feel those contractions. No matter how strong our inner muscles are, we can't really fake the strenght and frequency of orgasmic spasms.
Some girls find it difficult to reach orgasm. Often because of hang-ups or sexual prejudices (sadly, we've still haven't quite overcome the old teachings that sex was something a man enjoyed and a woman endured.). If she's relunctant to touch herself, she probably doesn't know how to best stimulate herself and cannot show you what works for her. If she's not getting as wet as she could, your ministrations might very well irritate her and she's faking it so that you'd stop. Or she might have some psychological block that prevents her from letting go of herself to that extent. Orgasm is a very vulnerable time and sometimes it's hard to let go if you don't really trust the person you're sharing it with.
You can also tell when a woman is having an orgasm by her coloring. She would blush basically all over. Her whole body would become warmer and her breathing should become more shallow (another thing you can't really fake. How self involved does a man have to be to be fooled like that?). In some cases, you can even see her pulse racing.
By the way, this is a fairly anonimous site, so I wouldn't worry that she might be upset by you posting this question here. I wouldn't suggest you discussing it with people close to her, though.
Ask her. Try to get her to open up. That's really the best way to find out what she's really feeling... Good luck
2006-11-16 14:14:18 · answer #1 · answered by CJ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's probably just taking longer to reach orgasm due to the meds. Are you being patient, gentle, kind??? If you're really tender and sensitive, she'll reach it faster. Sometimes meds are worse than the problem!
2016-03-28 23:01:38 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a conversation you should be having with her not us. She is the only one who can answer your questions. And how do you think she would feel if she knew you posted this here?
2006-11-16 13:11:03 · answer #3 · answered by Gypsy Girl 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Just ask her
2006-11-16 13:12:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES GO DISCOVER AND EXPLORE
2006-11-16 13:12:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Too bad this question is such a trash.
2006-11-16 13:19:11 · answer #6 · answered by jet 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
she should get you to discover the world of spelling
2006-11-16 13:09:16 · answer #7 · answered by benjamin b 2 · 4⤊ 3⤋