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I have a friend who had an arranged marriage to a very religious Sikh woman. He is not so religious but his parents arranged the marriage and he agreed. The have a 2 year old daughter now and the child is going to suffer because it is bright and the Father wants it exposed to cultural things and to be a Doctor one day. Being that they are from a religious family, they do not like to child to be mixing with other children that are not Indian. The Father has mixed feelings about it all. If he leaves the wife he says "My family will kill me and put me in the ground and I will take my daughter with me". He fears the wife's family and comes and goes with anothe woman who is not Indian.
I do not know what to advice him as he is home with his wife and everyone seems to think "what a lovely family they are etc etc."
I think he is playing 2 sides of the coin. What do you think???

2006-11-16 12:52:39 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Marriage & Divorce

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on a lighter note, I doubt your friend says "My family will kill me and put me in the ground" because as Sikhs we cremate and dont bury.

On a more serious note, divorce is an awful thing for everyone involved. I have witnessed divorce in sikh families and it doesnt end very happily. unlike americans, i dont think sikhs handle divorces or combined families very well. if he divorces his wife, i think there is a pretty big chance he will become estranged from his child. and issues like the child only interacting with indian kids will work out. when the kid goes to school she will naturally be exposed to all kinds of people. moreover, i attend university and i can tell you that despite growing up here, a lot of indian kids still hang out together, so its not a big deal to have just indian friends.

2006-11-18 03:51:05 · answer #1 · answered by Spreet 2 · 1 0

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2016-11-24 23:35:46 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0 0

Sorry to hear about your friend. It sounds very complicated. You will probably get more info in the "society and cultures" area. Best of luck to you.

2006-11-16 13:14:31 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 0 0

sikhism isnt india only, sikhs are all over usa

2006-11-16 13:08:17 · answer #4 · answered by TIC_G 1 · 0 0

I'm in California and have no knowledge about your culture and custom. Why yahoo not keep your question on India side???

2006-11-16 12:55:54 · answer #5 · answered by Toto 6 · 0 3

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