She just had our baby like 2 days ago and all she really seems to be doing is sleeping and taking care of her. It's so boring cuz she pays no attention to me anymore. All i can really do for her is change diapers(which im never doing cuz its nasty) cuz she breastfeeds so there goes feeding the baby.
2006-11-16 12:41:38 · 34 answers · asked by WhatUpWitDat 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
Okay dude, seriously! She had the baby two days ago and you're already upset and feel like she's neglecting you over your own flesh and blood?
You better get used to it for awhile, it takes adjusting and loving that baby first and foremost. Give her time.
Flirting with her isn't wise after childbirth, you're not even supposed to have sex for at least the first 6 weeks, right?
2006-11-16 12:44:21 · answer #1 · answered by Jen 5 · 6⤊ 0⤋
First off she just had a baby two days ago. That alone is very tiring physically and mentally. She spent nine months carrying your child which takes the wind out of anyone's sale. She's breastfeeding so she's getting up at all hours of the night. You won't change diapers o in effect she is the around the clock care of a newborn infant and you expect her to stay awake and entertain you. I forgot this was all about you. She is no way shape or form ready to have sex with you. Her body is still messed up from being pregnant and is trying to reform back to how it was.
Whether you find it nasty or not change some diapers. Do housework. Run some errands. Wash some clothes. There are tons of stuff you can do for her so all she doesn't have to do them all.
I hate to be the bearer of bad news but you are parents now. Your needs and wants come after the baby is taken care of. Your wife is not going to be spunky and available to entertain you.
2006-11-16 12:52:57 · answer #2 · answered by butterflykisses427 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Man, let her sleep! It's hard work building a baby, then you go sleepless for I don't know how many hours giving birth, then your body has to repair all the damage -- and make milk for the baby!
Take the kid for a little walk. Read him/her a book -- I know they don't do much, but baby will learn your voice that way. Learn how to give the baby a bath. (My husband gave my daughter a bath almost every night for her first year.) Your wife will love the little break, and she might be able to catch up on sleep so she can talk to you a little bit.
And I hate to tell you this, but it might get worse over the next few weeks. Hang in there until the baby turns 100 days old -- they start sleeping longer then, and they finally learn to smile about that time (even the really serious babies).
Then, when the baby gets older, they start to become a lot of fun. And, if you do a great job parenting, the kid will become a huge success and support you in your old age, and choose a *really* nice nursing home for you -- so be nice and do your part!
It's good for you!
2006-11-16 12:54:16 · answer #3 · answered by Madame M 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay, give her a break. Right now, her main concern is the newborn and when the baby sleeps, she sleeps. Otherwise she will pass out from exhaustion. Spend time with her when she's awake. If she's feeding the baby, sit by her and you can talk or something. She's not purposely trying to ignore you. She's just got her hands full and when you breastfeed, it makes it twice as hard to let someone else help you take care of the baby cause she's the only one who can feed him/her. Things will get better with time. Good luck with the baby!
2006-11-16 12:51:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Awwww...
well at least you are there with her and married and you didn't just leave her with the baby or you didnt just take the baby or anything else. So that is a good thing.
I am sure she will be paying attention to you in no time, it is just a phase she is going through right now with the baby.
It also sounds like you are willing to help, definitely.
I think some of the things you can do to help is throw away diapers for her, make sure the nursery or whatever is clean, do laundry if you can, make sure that she is comfortable sitting up or laying down with lots of pillows and things like that.
2006-11-16 13:41:34 · answer #5 · answered by buterflikizes20 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can do the chores around the house and start changing diapers. when the baby wakes up at night to eat you get up and get the baby ready and bring it to her and then get up and put the baby back down when shes done. not only is she up every couple hours and learning a whole new job and hormonal and trying to recover from birthing shes also breast feeding which is sucking the energy out of her. try letting her get more sleep by helping her more and not being more of a stressor for her at such an exhausting time in her life. she may be willing to stay awake and focus on you for a minute if shes better rested. if youre not willing to get up and change diapers and help her out around the house- doing laundry and such then just wake up and stay up everytime she does. walk around to expend energy while shes changing diapers and keep her company while shes breastfeeding. stick to her schedule for a couple days and i promise that even without the hormones and baby sucking on your breast you'll be dead tired and wont have the energy to complain about her lack of attention. if you arent willing to try anything- then you arent really wanting help. good luck. let these next few months be about your baby and your wife not you. you had your time and it will be your turn again but now its not.
2006-11-16 12:57:59 · answer #6 · answered by whatever 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you a real moron, or are you just trying to get slammed?!?!? You try forcing a watermelon out through an opening the size of a grapefruit, and see how you feel two days later!!!
Here's what you can do: change the baby, rock the baby, dress the baby, bathe the baby, feed your wife, do the housework for your wife, do the shopping for your wife--get the picture?
Don't expect her to be awake any more than the baby is for a while. New motherhood is exhausting.
2006-11-16 12:52:00 · answer #7 · answered by TXChristDem 4 · 7⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should really think about the situation. Your wife just gave birth, is breastfeeding, taking care of newborn, and dealing with a husband that doesn't seem to understand. You should be waiting on her hand and foot. You should be watching the baby so she can catch up on sleep and have some time to herself. Give her some time.
2006-11-16 12:49:06 · answer #8 · answered by Jamie S 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
wow no wonders shes sleeping shes doing all the work and her body needs to recover from birth and pregnancy. I have an idea why dont u take the babay and let her get some rest and change a diaper or two if needed. This is your kid too
2006-11-16 12:48:51 · answer #9 · answered by do you know me? 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Right now is a very important time for her to bond with the newborn. You can bond too by holding the baby while she showers or does other things. You can make meals and go get groceries as your wife will be really hungry. You are really needed in this equation so the more you help out the closer you'll be as a family.
2006-11-16 12:45:14 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋