i stare at my wrists and think.....should i or not???

Question

i always use to cut my wrists! im 14 and have alot of anger in me from my past. when i get really angry because my family upset me i always feel the need to hurt myself but i get scared to do it because my mom says if she ever seen me cut myself again im having counselling! i also want to cut my wrists too because of my body image! im fat well atleast i think i am and it makes me depressed and i then get angry with myself. i have so many emotions goin through me right now! and im scared i will hurt myself agan wot do i do?.....

i use to see my school councellor but he was rubbish! I have recently bin kicked out of school. i use to always always cut myself in the past but now i have stopped the urge to cut myself gets stronger each time! plus my moms always makin herself sick which makes me soooo angry!! please jus help me some one!!!.....

when i slit my wrists it takes my mind off my problems its like release and it helps.... if u hav neva cut ur self u wil neva no..

Answer 1

i have to say i understand. i hate it but i understand.

there's a buzz that's satisfying plus, you've got something you can do (with the cuts) you can look after them and they show you that you're alive, that you can feel and you exist.

THERE'S ONLY SO MUCH SKIN!

and you've got to spend the rest of your life with it. look after it differently. i won't tell you i know how you feel but i do know how I feel & i'm telling you.

You've got to decide what you want. You've got to make important choices about your life and what you need.

It doesn't matter what they are. Decide you want new trainers, or new t-shirt, or different friends, or to make your mum laugh and reduce the number of arguments.

then you've must to find a way to achieve those goals. It's your life at the end of the day. When you're 18 you'll be a different person and you'll need to know how to deal with different problems. Learn how to get what you want or need early.

there's nothing wrong with counselling, it's just having someone you can talk to, that thinks about bettering your future, and gives you full on attention, and also knows how to help you and your family. We can't always do everything on our own, and counseling is not a punishment. Your mum shouldn't have made it sound like that.

Holes and spaces only get bigger and hungrier so the more you cut the more you'll want to cut and soon it'll be more problem than temporary solution. In your future you'll probably need to share your skin with other people it's an essential need to be able to touch or be near someonem you've probably thought of that already so i won't bore you.

Don't make that barrier for yourself, life has enough problems without you being a problem for yourself.

Make choices. Let them be GOOD or funny and clever choices that will help you and the people around you. Enjoy everything as much as you can, and find ways to change reasonable things so that things can be better.

Answer 2

ok, everyone has problems, but you just need to learn how to deal with them. So your family pisses you off, how is cutting your wrist going to help/fix anything? Your only going to make your family worry and they are going to be on your back 24/7. So you think your "fat", well do something about it. Im sure cutting your wrist isnt going to help or fix that problem either. Go work out..make your self feel better. Its actually fun, go to the gym or if you cant, do some exercise at home while you listen to your fav. music. Trust me its not worth it, and your not helping your self by doing that. The more depressed you get the worse you are going to think of your self. Take it from me, I get pissed easily and i scare my self when I get mad, cause i loose it. But the first step to help my self out is to recognize I have a problem, and control my self. Youre only 14, you shouldnt worry about much right now. Talk to someone...it helps. And if you dont have no one to talk to, I'm here for you....I know we dont know each other...but if you want e-mail me...I'm a great listener and friend :D
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Answer 3

In life, we face many trials which may seem like a curse, however if you learn to look at your problems as 'weapons', you will will be able to use them later on in life to make you a stronger person. The humans who 'embrace' their problems and find realistic solutions turn out to be the most successful and happy ones. Think about it...what does slitting your wrist do other than give you negative attention from the people around you? You want positive results! Meditate on it and love yourself for who you are!

Answer 4

Fourteen is a tough age, but cutting your wrists when your family upsets you is an issue that is beyond any help that your mother or anyone here on Yahoo can provide to you. You don't indicate where on your wrists you are cutting yourself, or if you cut deep enough to cause lots of bleeding. But I am fearful that one day you may go too far because cutting your wrists could be viewed as attempts to commit suicide, or at the very least subconscious attempts by you to get your family to see how bad things are for you right now. You need help from a professional counselor, and your parents should not delay in finding help for you.

The counselor also can help your deal with your feelings about your body image. (Perhaps your parents should ensure that any counselor they or you choose can help with your body image problems.) I believe that you should talk to your mother or father (or both) as soon as possible and tell them that you want counselling because you want to hurt yourself and because of your body image. This is too important to put off any longer. And hopefully the counselor also will involve the entire family in some of the sessions. I think the counselor should encourage your parents to be proactive and attend sessions so that he/she can better figure out the family dynamics that may add to or maybe even cause your problems.

If you think that the first counselor is unable to help you, let your parents know what you are thinking so that they can continue looking for the "right" counselor to help you. Hopefully, you will "click" with the first counselor, and help will begin as soon as possible.

It may be that your fear of being caught by your mother if you cut yourself again is complicating everything. Your mother may be angry, but that anger may actually be with herself and may come from her feelings that she cannot help you with this problem. Please show this email to your mother if you think it would help. I am a 53-year-old woman who has raised a son who is now 26 and engaged in successful employment. Sometimes I wonder how he grew up to be so grounded considering the number of times I felt inadequate as a mother, particularly during his teen years. I think its normal for most mothers (and perhaps fathers) to question their ability to help their children through their tough times. Still, these problems will not go away because your fear that your mother will be angry with you, because your reaction to the family upsetting you is to hurt yourself.

Further you should not feel that counseling would be a punishment for your behavior. Instead, it should be seen as a way of providing hope that you will be able to deal with these issues and resolve them. So please, tell your mother that you want counseling because you are still wanting to hurt yourself, even if you haven't done so yet. And tell her that your feelings about your body image are only making things all that much worse because it makes you depressed and angry with yourself.

Answer 5

Baby girl, the first thing I need to let you know is that we all get depressed and angry,and everyone has lost it to the point of WANTING to hurt something or someone.Now,take a breath,a good deep breath,you are a young lady with alot of hormone fluctuations and a growing sense of coming into yourself.You are no longer a child crying out for attention at 14,you do realize that cutting yourself has only brought you temporary relief in one form or another as a child,right?Becoming a young lady does not allow you that option.Now you are considered to be "mentally unstable" to cut yourself.I want you to get on the internet and use the anger and rage to vent your feelings,share how and what you are going thru.You are not the only one who feels like you do,there are more than you know.Think about a webpage on myspace,or any group that involves dealing with self-inflicted pain,teen rage,I want you to reach out girl!you are worth it!You might think that you are overweight right now,but I assure you that you will grow into it,just give yourself time,allow yourself to be so pissed that it brings up the old feelings of wanting to cut,and use that energy in a physical way that will benefit you,your spirit,your body,you decide.But Promise yourself that you won't harm yourself or others anymore,juvenile detention is not what you want,or to be confined to a state mental hospital.It's ok to feel the rage, it will come all your life.It's what we do with the anger that either gets us through or holds us captive in our lives.I send you all my love and pray that you know just how special YOU are to everyone around you and even to people that don't know you,It is hard to see past the anger but I promise you that something great will come out of your journey to finding out if you just take control and allow your heart to guide you thru the parts that make you feel insecure or worthless,angry or frustrated,Don't keep going down that same path,take a step into becoming responsible for how you vent your rage,,what you do to let the anger pass,grow into what you want to become honey,don't let yourself give up. Just believe you are strong enough,I do.Prayers and good luck finding new outlets to try and vent up the pent up hostility,I am proud of you for just coming this far in your journey.You are truly on your way my darling,just breath when the going gets tough and know there are many people out here to support you and help you thru,I promise.

Answer 6

Talk to a counsellor or a friend that you can trust. It's better to let things out rather than keeping them to yourself. You are only 14 and still have a lot of opportunities ahead in life. Treasure your life. Think wisely. Is it worth it ? There are lot more people in this world who are less fortunate than you are. Put yourself in their shoes. At least you are well and healthy unlike them. So learn to live to the fullest and without any regrets.

Answer 7

Everybody is scared of hurting themselves but what you really need is help from the professional. They are able to help you more than anyone of us here. You are still young and you have a bright future ahead and you shouldn't harbour this type of feeling or emotions in yourself. You should talk to your counsellor on your thinking if you are having one at the moment. It really depends on your will power to overcome all this.

Answer 8

after I used to placed on a watch, I did. organic habit, of route. i imagine that is somewhat on the concern of the expression used even as someone asks you for time and look at were given no wristwatch " 2 hairs previous a freckle". after I've worn rings contained in the previous, i have even found myself glancing at one among them to make sure the time. There are rings accessible with watches in them, besides the undeniable fact that i have by no potential owned one. they're in many cases a women people's merchandise, i trust. I by no potential found out precisely why I ever used to attempt this.

Answer 9

don't do it! there's this girl in the news who had the same cutting problem. She ended up dead!!! She was 18 and she was very outkast with everyone and hated everyting! She used to be a cutter like you and then one day she had an argument with her mom and she ran from awey from home. the mom called the police and the police tried to take the knife from her, but she attacked the police and they shot her. THE END

Answer 10

You really need to get professional help from a counselor or psychiatrist to help you sort through your emotions. This is not something you can do yourself. If you do not want to discuss this with your parents, go to your school counselor. Please talk to someone soon.

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