what made it worse was that he put the number under a boys name and i found the message on his fone he won't answer my questions about that night and when i see his friends they go on about that night all the time how they went to a strip club and did lots of wild things then look at each other and laugh im going out of my mind with worry i love him loads but i car'nt go on with the relationship without noing what happened other wise i'll have these images of him with another girl tormenting me for the rest of my life what makes it worse is that we have a 3 year old son together i'm realy worried i'd loose my partner but i car'nt go on without noing i've not talked to no one about this i need some answers!
2006-11-16 12:04:55 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Well - it might really make him mad - but tell him if he won't answer you that you're going to call the number you found and ask THEM what happened.
He owes you an explanation - but that doesn't mean you'll get it. If he's not being honest or upfront when asked - there are two things you can do. Stay - and get past it or leave. Sad - but you can't control this guy. All you can control are your own actions.
2006-11-16 12:10:28 · answer #1 · answered by liddabet 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him if he refueses to say anything, and had that sneaky behavior, AND his friends are all laughing and saying they went to the s. club, then probably something went on u no what im saying?
this can only mean 2things a. he has bad friends that want to get him in trouble wid u or b. he did something, and doesn't want to tell u because he will be afraid of what u will think of him, either u think of him less like filth, or he might b afraid of what could go on in the relation ship...
we all make mistakes and if you forgive him JUST THIS ONE TIME and he dosn't do it again and works to make up for what he did and is faithfull then he is a good person..... and besides its a couple of guys, its at a strip club maybe they had a beer r something got a bit drunk u no...
but anyway just don't dump him yet wait see if he is truly ashamed of what he has done the good path in a relation ship can't always be the smoothest i learned that a long time ago, and my heart is still sad from the path i chose.... just don't dump him if he says hes sorry let him prove it to you just make sure this doesn't happen again if he does it get strict on him show him whos boss and if he does it again dump him ok
2006-11-16 12:16:56 · answer #2 · answered by fatty mcfatphatpfat 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You walk before he does. The trust is now out the window and the relationship is done. If he's hiding it then that means yes something is going on and its only going to get worse. If he leaves you it will hurt a LOT more..
I know you've invested your time and emotion in this relationship b ut once a cheat always a cheat and if he's letting his friends lead him knowing he's got responsibilities, then you are in for a lot of heartache if you stay.
2006-11-16 12:43:15 · answer #3 · answered by Carrie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Totally confront him with everything. Say you know about the number and the fake name and the strip club and your trust for him is wavering. Ask him for the truth and be prepared for it. I am not sure what he will say but he will be counting on you being too weak to actually call him out. Even if he did do something last weekend, he will think twice from now on knowing you will confront him on it.
2006-11-16 12:12:12 · answer #4 · answered by BLANK 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is going to mess around with his friends at a strip club then he will not be much of a father to your son nor much of a good thing for you. Give him his freedom so he can party with his friends since it means so much to him.
2006-11-16 12:08:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i hate to break it to you honey but he probably cheated on you while he was away. you need to discuss it with him, but don't do it when anyone else is around. if he is not willing to tell you the truth or if he just laughs it off like its not a big deal than i would definitely tell him to TAKE A HIKE!
2006-11-16 12:12:01 · answer #6 · answered by Btieti 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Demand the truth, Tell him if he doesnt be honest with you you no longer can be together, or call the girl and ask her what happened.
2006-11-16 12:44:15 · answer #7 · answered by MAMA 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him about how you feel first, and second, alot of men do stupid things like this, if you tell him how you feel, and he still wont tell you anything, then you are too good for him.
2006-11-16 12:07:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, seems like so
2016-05-21 21:36:54 · answer #9 · answered by Lydia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont let him get away with this...find someone else fast and then dump him when he least expects it....All men cheat and lie, you will learn this eventually.
2006-11-16 12:10:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋