anyone ever date a man that has been hurt and has trust issues?

Answer 1

I've been hurt and have trust issues.

After looking back at my past I realize the reason is due to me not making good choices in women.

For all those women out there crying foul play when a man cheats on you, don't think for a minute that men don't go through those very same emotions.

The difference though is I don't stereotype women nearly half as much as most women stereotype men.

Why does a man have trust issues? Because we were hurt somehow by a woman.

Fault has no place for pointing the finger when a man or woman falls in love with each other and one of them ruins the trust of the other.

When it happens several times it hurts.

It hurts a lot more when everyone you know tells you how great you are, how loyal you are, how devoted, loving, kind, considerate, romantic and seeing how much you appreciate your wife... Really shows... And you really have a lucky wife (as hundreds of women have told me since I was about 17... Now at almost 44 the tone is the same but the trash I wasted my time with obviously wasn't worthy of having a decent man. As so called.

Anyway, just like women, men can have emotional set backs and while we're supposed to just deal with it and move on, as scholars and counselors will contest, a man having those emotions are rare and so is his ability to ove on with it as easy as most women do (or can.)

Answer 2

I am currently with my fiancee and he was not hurt in the aspect that he was dumped but the relationship itself really put a lot of stress on his emotions. He and her were not completely honest with each other all the time and that right there is the cause of that in your relationship now. Whether he or her were not honest would still cause his untrustworthiness. It will take time but if you love him and show him compassion the hurt will subside and if you show him again and again that he can trust you eventually he will learn that he can trust you and the issue just won't be there anymore. Good Luck!!

Answer 3

think about it, who hasn't been hurt and who doesn't have trust issues. i would say that if you truely care about this man to take the relationship slow, let the trust be proven over time and hopefully he is a mature man who won't use his past experiences against you and things can be good. i met, dated and married a man who's mother didn't even like him just becoz he looked like an uncle that she despised so as a result she abused him and he had two other marriages that failed and my relationship with him has been THE RELATIONSHIP FROM HELL, REGARDLESS OF WHAT I DO he will never trust me, he's controlling and iI am filing for divorce after 4 months of marriage GOOD LUCK

Answer 4

I am one of those men. My ex wife of 25 years ago burned me bad. She cheated more than once and ripped my heart out, then took my child. (I was in the military at the time.)

Even today when my current wife of 23 years want to go out with the people from her office or is late sometimes, I worry. I don't stop her, but there is a place is my heart where I feel deja vu.

I don't like the way that I feel and I love and trust my current wife, but I can't help the way I feel. Perhaps I need to see a shrink. But, traumatic times in life are hard to forget. I know I should, but its just not that easy.

Answer 5

Yes many and it isn't easy convincing them that your not the other women that he has been with in the past. In the long run, it has always split us up because I am trusting as well as I expect him to be. I also think that loyalty and trust is the number structure for a relationship and without it you have no relationship. I hope that helps, Good luck.

Answer 6

i married a man with major trust issues, me being his fourth wife, i thought too highly of me, thinking i was not like any of the others, well for 10 years i lived with a controlling monster,but stayed with him because i didn't want to hurt him, well he ended up doing me in and leaving me for another. it is so hard to marry someone with trust issues, as they always compare u to the other wife or girlfriend, always amigining u are doing things against them, they are very paranoid. i would never marry another man with trust issues again.

Answer 7

on your case i think of that in case you nevertheless have thoughts for him then supply him yet another attempt. From what you're asserting there does not sound like there's a clarification for an alterior purpose and he probably only misses you. I dated a Gemini (i'm a Libra) and that i assumed issues have been suitable. I in no way had a greater dazzling bond nor did I ever get alongside w/a guy like I did w/him. yet he too had a brilliant sort of issues occurring in his existence that's what they say Gemini's tend to get caught up in. besides our relationship became into long distance (Pgh, PA to DC) and distance wasn't a difficulty. I too doubt he cheated on me. i think of Gemini's are busy, adventurous, and constantly on the pass. They placed on themselves out. The Gem I dated became into hassle-free, witty, clever, VERY style, and straightforward. till i became into completely oblivious to the actuality that his "different" character had yet another existence occurring which I exceedingly doubt. He concealed his thoughts and might enable issues bottle up interior till he could no longer take care of it anymore. i might say you would be sorry to no longer confer with him in case you adore him :)

Answer 8

JUST ABOUT ALL OF THEM! all the guys I dated had issues and problems with trust, it's hard

Answer 9

Yes I have in the past and I can tell you that it was a total nightmare for me. No matter what I did or say, he would always, and I mean ALWAYS suspect me of doing things behind his back. He was also a control freak and hated all my friends, didn't let me go out with them and hated it when I spent time with my family. He never gave me space to breath and needless to say, I got out of that relationship as quickly as possible because I felt that his issues are something I had no control of. It was something he had to work on himself.

Answer 10

yes I have dated and then married someone that has been hurt and that has had trust issues but we've worked through it and he knows that I love him and that he can trust in me ( I wasn't the one to hurt him or have him distrust me, it was his ex girl friend that I can thank for that )