Thats my first question. I hate love I'm so devistated and lost at the moment and I don't know what to do. I hate the person who I'm in love with for doing this to me. She ruined my life! I want to let go but I can't seem to. I don't get it I'm fine one minute and the next I'm not. I just wish people stopped playing games and with people's emotions. It takes a toll on me.
2006-11-16 12:02:48 · 8 answers · asked by Just Wondering 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
no, if u loves a person, u love, if u hates them, u hate
2006-11-16 12:04:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Awwww...sorry to hear all this. These are all life lessons. It is these hurtful events by those we love that make us grow up and chose our lovers/friends wisely. One can never be too careful but there's a reason that they say with age comes wisdome.
Is your girl young? if so, there's your answer. most young girls thrive on playing games and hurting their bf's just to see how far the guy will go for them. It's stupid and childish, but playing gmaes almost exists in every girl I've known.
Your best shot (trust me I'm a girl) is to ignore her. I promise you if these are all games she's playing and she really cares about you she'll come back running after you. If she doesn't, then the hell with her. There are a lot of fish in the sea.
Take a break from her, get yourself together, and think about what positive aspects she brings to your life. If it's all fighting and playing games, then you're much better off without her.
It'll be hard at the beginning, but after a while you'll forget and move on and hopefully find a better girl for yourself.
2006-11-16 12:12:41 · answer #2 · answered by Shelley S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ya know this may be hard for som people to understand but i compleatly know where ur comming form. You love he girl but she pisses you of alot, i have a relationship like this. i have come to understand that you hate them because you love them so much, they can hurt you more then anything in the world and some how they make up for it. it also may seem like hate at the moment, beacuse beileve me i hate my b/f sometimes, but if you sit and think for a while do you really want to live without them, my answer is no, thats where the love comes in. Depending on how much love you feel for eachother, can be what holds you togther, sometiems in the end u may come to find out that there is not enough love to make the relationship work. thats what it comes down to. If the person you love is doing things very hurtful, like cheating or lieing to you, then the issue is not love, its disrespect and you cant fix that even though you may have alot of love for her. i think all love comes with some amount of hate, no relationship is ever perfect..................good luck
2006-11-16 12:09:53 · answer #3 · answered by jessica d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well my dear, there is a very very thin line between love & hate. Time is the best medicine. You need to allow yourself to heal from the pain that someone you love caused you. dont expect it to come fast. There are stages to getting over someone. #1.hurt, shocked, devistated #2 questioning, analyzing, wondering "what if" #3 Hate, dispize, revenge #4 Acceptance. Forgive, forget, move on. Just alow your self to go through the natural greiving process.
2006-11-16 12:08:04 · answer #4 · answered by Mia 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I too wish love wsn't so complicated and that people would care about each others feelings not just juggle with them. Even though ive been through this situation i too don't understand how you can love and hate at the same time so if you get any good answers tell me
2006-11-16 12:07:19 · answer #5 · answered by Lil_B4ByLV 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Game players take a toll on every ones lives
2006-11-16 12:05:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well one way is hate what he, done and love the rest of him,and learn to forgive this person he is sleeping at night in you are laying a wake thinking about what he done to you.forgive him and move on good luck.
2006-11-16 12:09:27 · answer #7 · answered by annjilena 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
human emotions are complicated. there is no right answer, but time always helps makes one of your options clearer.
2006-11-16 12:05:08 · answer #8 · answered by sweetybabe 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋