I'll cut to the chase. When my husband has too much to drink, he's mean. I've asked him to cut back on drinking, but he won't. He just brings home booze anyway. What do I do?
2006-11-16 12:02:37 · 9 answers · asked by Francesca 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Interesting. I just broke up with my stubborn boyfriend who also is very mean when he drinks. Although he is one stubborn guy, he acknowleged that he was a person he didn't want to be when he drinks. He made a big effort to cut back, at least around me, and it did help. I think it says a lot about your relationship if he isn't willing to at least TRY to cut back. It's not like you are asking him to stop having a good time, if he's mean, that is just not okay and it shouldn't be accepted. I'd suggest talking to a couples counselor.
2006-11-16 12:24:10 · answer #1 · answered by Ali P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First,ask him to get help for his drinking problem.He'll probably say he doesn't have a problem.Second,if he continues it's time for you to get out of there because 99.9% of the time,if he hasn't already will start abusing you mentally,and physically,he will.If you and if you have children stay,you all will be in harms way.Yes you probably love him,but in a situation like that you have to let go of the things you love in order to have an abuse free life.And keep what sanity you have left.
2006-11-16 21:37:21 · answer #2 · answered by Willnotlietoyou 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hard to say. If y'all have kids, they dont need to see their daddy all drunk and stupid. Either way if y'all have kids or not, express yourself to him again the next time he comes home drunk. If it happens again that you wont be there when he gets home. Take yourself and your kids (if ya have any) to a motel for the night, or to a relatives house. Stay there a few days if you can. Maybe he'll open his eyes and see that your not playin around anymore. Hope it helps!
2006-11-16 20:43:23 · answer #3 · answered by PfcsBaby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
unfortunately you can't make him do something he doesn't want to do. that means he won't cut back on his drinking until he actually sees what a toll it has taken on his marriage and other parts of his life. i would suggest talking to a trusted friend or try going to al-anon for support. good luck
2006-11-16 20:20:39 · answer #4 · answered by jdchick48 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to stick to your guns on this one. tell him he has 2 choices. he can either quit drinking and learn to be nicer or he can keep drinking all he wants but you will leave him. if you don't stick to what you say he'll never change. he'll only treat you that way if you let him.
2006-11-16 20:07:06 · answer #5 · answered by Btieti 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats a hard question to answer. have u tried asking a good friend about this, a sibling, a parent. maybe u can threaten him by leaving.
2006-11-16 20:06:23 · answer #6 · answered by havingfun 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay the h**l out of his way when he is drunk or leave him. Only two choices you have if he does not what to stop.
2006-11-16 20:29:52 · answer #7 · answered by Johnny S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him he drinks alone and leave next time.
2006-11-16 20:04:34 · answer #8 · answered by me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get out before it is too late. if he wont change, things will only get worse.
2006-11-16 20:04:57 · answer #9 · answered by grumpy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋