What am I to do?

Question

Hello all, I have a issue I would like some advice on please.

First off, I'm getting married in February to a wonderful women. But the problem that is coming up is where are we to spend our holidays with.

She told me that me and her decide on going to her families for thanks giving. But I don't remember that. So, my mother and family ask me to come over and I accepted. Now, she is hurt, but I told her I will go with her this thanksgiving with her family, and next year she could come with me to my family. Well, she really doesn't like that idea because her father travels alot when he works and she only gets to see him 3 or 4 times a year. But on the other hand. I feel that if we are going to spend our lives together, then we should do holidays different. I just really confused. Can someone help

Answer 1

My husband & I faced this problem many years ago. We solved Christmas by going to his family on Christmas Eve & mine on Christmas day since thats when they celebrate. Thanksgiving was harder though, so we tried going to mine first one year & his first the next. You eat alot of food that way though, or risk hurting someones feelings. Now, our daughter comes to our house one year & her in-laws the next & we understand & don't begrudge the other family their share of the Holiday.
Hope this helps!

Answer 2

Make a compromise with whoever is more compromisable, your mom or your fiance. Strike a deal that you'll come to so-and-so's house for Thanksgiving and so-and-so's house for Christmas.

Answer 3

You're starting off on the wrong foot. You sure you want to spend your life with somebody self centered that doesn't know the meaning of compromise?

Answer 4

One easy solutions............ have thanks giving at your place adn invite both sets of parents over