Just wanted to ask if anyone had seen there ex's (or one of) lately and been happy and not upset by seeing them. I saw mine tonight and I feel good about myself, he's doing good and I dont have any hard feelings about anything having to do with him. :)
2006-11-16 11:43:40 · 12 answers · asked by ◙Blue-Eyed♥Red-Headed♥Bella◙ 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
well looky- here, we got ourselves a winner.. that's the way to do it just like a strong woman that u are.
2006-11-16 11:46:05 · answer #1 · answered by Henry P 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've had similar experiences too. I've bumped into exes, and either felt happy for them or indifferent regarding their current situation. I've also bumped into my first love - thought I could have lunch with him and catch up - but felt, that after 20 years - yes 20 years - the attraction and feelings were stronger than they'd ever been. You should be happy that you were happy for your ex, but to tell you the truth, I just think you never really cared for him as much as you though you did. The people you loved, you'l always love. I've bumped into many exes before, with no lingering after effects, except, well, that's nice, 2 kids, a wife. no big deal. But this one person, I've bumped into throughout the years, has always left me on clound nine for 1 to 2 weeks at a time, and that was just after a wave hello from a distance. The time we had lunch together to catch-up, we ended up exchanging phone numbers, and saying we'd be friends. We ended up having an affair for 6 mos. - and I havent' gotten over it since. It's been a year. I have a life and family of my own. And he's on his way to becoming a christian minister - who thinks that this short lived love affair was just a test God put before him on his road to pastorship...........I can't compete with God! It woudl be a waste to even try.
I just have to live with the fact that our roads crossed way too late. I'm learning to live with this. It hasn't gotten any easier, just less harder each day. I miss him immensely.
2006-11-16 12:01:06 · answer #2 · answered by Canela 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That happened with me one time. I was with this guy for like 2 years and then we broke up (for the final time). I didn't see him for about a year and a half, and then one day we talked on the phone. We agreed to meet and I was so nervous; I had all these old feelings built up inside me and I almost started crying thinking about how much I missed him...or so I thought.
When I finally met up with himn, for some reason, I was so disgusted by the sight of him. I guess it just reminded me of everything I hatefd about him. I only stayed for about 5 minutes then I left.
I felt awesome.
2006-11-16 11:53:45 · answer #3 · answered by Jax 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, what you just went through is called moving on. Good for you. I've had similar experiences, and I know how good that feeling is, knowing that you're over the relationship and the breakup, and knowing you are completely over it. More power to you!
2006-11-16 11:46:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It means you're completely over him. I've seen my ex last year when he came back to town and I had the same reaction as you did. Good for you!
2006-11-16 11:49:37 · answer #5 · answered by jdhs 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I keep in touch with some of my ex's... No hard feelings at all.
2006-11-16 11:50:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
all the time with my last ex boyfriend. i actually used to throw that in my more recent ex boyfriend's face. "why can't you guys be more like us? i want him to be happy and i am happy that he is. grow the hell up and stop fighting!" it never worked.
2006-11-16 11:47:52 · answer #7 · answered by pikachu 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, my ex hated my guts for a long time, now she respects me....it does feel good.
2006-11-16 11:58:33 · answer #8 · answered by Bert 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ha,
I saw my ex and wanted to kick my own @ss for even being married to her.
2006-11-16 11:48:00 · answer #9 · answered by scott in minnesota 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Bravo! Bravo! Good for you - I've been there. No need to go on with contempt. (Especially if there's kids)
2006-11-16 11:49:19 · answer #10 · answered by pikeruss 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋