Does anyone else hate change?

Question

I really hate things changing i try not to make relationships with people because they always leave and move on. Will this ever change?

Answer 1

Would you want to always go on holiday to the same place ? Always eat the same things for breakfast ? Still use a 1980 PC, not have Internet or MP3 music ?
Only change is constant - but unnecessary change is a pain.
It is important to be able to deal with change, and not fear it. Not everyone will leave you - though people will enter and leave your life as you live it.
I don't like change for its own sake - I like a reasonable amount of stability, but I do also like things to improve - and that means change.
Try to accept some change as a good thing, and when it sometimes turns out not to be so good, well, life is like that sometimes, try to put that case behind you and look forward ot the next positive change in your life.
Believe in yourself, you are special - and you will find people out there who care for you, and for whom you want to care.

Answer 2

So you hate change, but you wonder if hating change is ever going to change...I like the irony.

Everybody leaves. One way or another, everybody leaves. You can't deny yourself the pleasure of relationships just because the other people will leave (or you just might leave those people--you never know.) Every relationship ends and that's just how it goes. Whether somebody moves, dies, gets tired of you, meets somebody else...change is a part of every single relationship, and you just have to accept that as a condition of being human.

That said, you should fully embrace relationships because:
1. Half-a ssed relationships aren't worth the trouble. Dive in and have the whole experience. You'll never be happy if you don't give your relationship a decent chance to succeed, and success depends on you devoting yourself *entirely* to the experience.

2. The relationship *will* end. So enjoy it while it lasts. You can't look ahead all the time and say, well, tomorrow this could be over, or the next day, or the next day...one day, it'll be true. But if you focus on that, you'll miss all the joy of being in a relationship *today*, while it's still there, while that person is still with you. Say instead, I have today, and I'm going to make the most of it. And MEAN it. Really, you're thinking a lot about a hypothetical future, and you're talking yourself out of enjoying the present because you're too worried about the worst-case scenario.

Things change. That can suck. But things can be better, and there can be calm periods between storms. Learn from your mistakes, and tell yourself you'll do all you can to avoid them in the future. Then, just take one day at a time. It sounds cheezy, but really, you're trying to take the future into account and that's impossible. You can only make basic plans for the future and wait and see how things work out.

I understand where you're coming from, but you're going about this all wrong. Being hurt...it happens. I'm sorry you've been hurt, but you can't stop living because you've been hurt in the past.

It's like Butters said on South Park: he was happy that he was so sad about being dumped because in order for him to feel that bad, he had to feel good at some point. So, it's like "a beautiful sadness." He'd rather be sad sometimes than never feel anything at all. So listen to Butters because he's a wise cartoon character.

Answer 3

Life is ever changing and thats what is so exciting about it. You can feel so many different things at differenttimes. Why would you want to feel the same? Embrace change and enjoy it. 'People come in and out of your life like busboys in a diner' - a quote from Stand by Me. A truely inspiring film, all about life changes and growing up.
Dont be afraid to meet new people and get close and if they leave then they were never meant to stay. Its great and interesting meeting people and learning from them.
Enjoy yourself and every moment xx

Answer 4

Change is a part of life, yet as human beings we constantly fear the unknown. We fear progress and want to remain in control of our own private worlds, but that time has come again where we must take the next step. To live life to the fullest, it is required of us to take risks; to go into that unknown and take that chance by throwing ourselves out there in the hopes of being better off than where we started. It is that longing to have what we don’t have and like all, we aspire to rise to the top so we can look back and say, “I did it, I overcame all odds.” At times, we would like to shut ourselves in, so we know that we’ll remain safe and secure. But to remain in seclusion forever is to live life in the shadows with the question of “what if” years down the road that tortures our soul as we would imagine what things might have been when they really could have been. It is in the end of all things when we reflect on things past; it is in that end when we realize those ups and downs in life made us who we are which made this whole ride worthwhile. Do not trouble yourself with the thought of failure or fear of what is to come; rather focus on the positive and what can be gained out of any experience whether good or bad. A single success or failure will not be the beginning or end of all things; life will always have its obstacles no matter what road we decide to tread upon. All that truly matters is how we go about solving our troubles, and taking that leap of faith into the unknown.

Answer 5

Unfortunately, to fear change is to fear life. All things change around us all the time, and nothing ever stays the same.

It is no accident that all the worlds surviving religions all talk of an everlasting and never changing god...This is because change represents imperfection and and as god must be perfect...so god cannot be subject to change.

For our day to day experience of change though, our strength lays in our ability to embrace and make the most of change. For example...if something goes wrong it is not a failure, it is a lucky demonstration that we have yet to make the right choice.

Change is not frightening...our inability to deal with it is...

Hope this helps

Answer 6

I dislike changes that happen so fast I have no time to adjust to them. But some changes are good and will result in a better life. If people are moving on, perhaps you are looking for relationships in the wrong places. For instance, if you look for a spouse in a bar, you might just find a barfly or a drunk. If you look in a church, you might find someone who is good, but that is not a guarantee. Watch people before you become involved. See how they treat others in their families and circle of friends. Someone who is rude and abrasive to his family will be that to you once you become part of that familiy. Someone who treats his mother and sister like a princess will most likely have the same respect for a wife. Likewise, if a man is looking for a wife, he should not look for one that has no self respect, because she will have no respect for you either.

Answer 7

Me too. It is fear of loss more than anything. At a deep level all we want is someone to take care of us and fulfil our needs. Everyone of us has this fear of loss whenever someone comes into our lives who seems to fit the bill according to our needs. When things don't work out and inevitably change happens this fear comes up.

One way forward is to accept that change is inevitable. We can create that feeling of fulfilled needs ourselves because it can be generated from within us. By being our own best friend and treating ourselves as we would like to be treated. If we take care of our own needs and nurture ourselves we will appear far more attractive to others, and when we do attract a mate then, because we take care of ourselves, we will have fewer expectations so it kind of takes the pressure off them to cater to all our needs, and the relationship is more likely to work out.

Hope this helps.

Answer 8

When I saw the title of the question I thought it referred to change as in money - and oh, how I hate having a purseful of pennies! IThey weigh a ton and they don't even accept it on the buses here! In days gone by you could throw your change into a busker's hat but now he's likely to set his mangy dog on you if you don't give him at least a pound. Banks charge you for taking it in to them and asking them to swap it for real money, and kids no longer run errands for a few coppers. So yes, I hate change!

Answer 9

Try a couple of small ones-get out of bed the other side-brush your teeth with the other hand -then buy a book on it-I would recommend mine but that is not what this is about. Best o luck

Answer 10

Life changes, through evolution, when get up in the morning to when to bed at night. Time, is a factor, theres nothing you or anybody else can to about it.