my husband is the manager at this really nice restaurant. there is this 22 year old girl (shift manger) that calls our house and his cell phone almost everyday. i have met her and i can't stand her! my husband had a interview for another job yesterday and she called and left a message to wish him good luck and was very flirty. i got soooo mad. i told my husband that he needed to talk to her or that i would call her and tell her to stop calling unless its an emergency at the restaurant. we got in a fight about it cuz he said that it would be embarrassing for him if i called her. i know she likes my husband but he doesn't think so. i know that he doesn't flirt back with her but still....it makes me mad that she knows that he's married and we have a 3 1/2 month old baby. i want to call her and tell her to back the **** off but my husband would get really mad. he told me yesterday that he talked to her, but she keeps calling. should i call her or wait til i see her at the restaurant?
2006-11-16 10:28:53 · 18 answers · asked by sexymama06 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I got a feeling your husband enjoys this girls attention. I don't know how old you are and if you are afraid to stand up to your husband, but these phone calls to your home from this woman must stop. If you are uncomfortable.....that's enough. Your husband must take your feelings into consideration when dealing with anyone, as long as you are not being unreasonable. If you don't want people calling your home, then you should not have people calling your home. Have your husband deal with this person on the job only. He should tell this person not to call your home again. If she had a message for him regarding work, she can leave the message on the "job" where it belongs, not on your home phone. Once again, if you are uncomfortable, then your husand needs to be the one to put a stop to this. If he doesn't then you have to rise to the occasion and go to the resturant and tell your husband that you are there to speak to this person about calling your home, you've had enough. This should move your husband to doing something about it. I'm sure he doesn't want you making a scene at the restaurant, but if this is what it takes, so be it. Don't let anyone disrespect you or your marriage. Also, you better check out your husband.
2006-11-16 10:47:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW!!, you need to find out why he even wants to talk to her in the first place. I mean he should be as annoyed as you are, right. She's the one who should feel embarrassed, I would start picking up the phone when she called and he could help the situation if he would stop picking up the phone! That's what voice mail is for. If it a emergency he'll know and if to leave flirty messages,I would suggest getting a number change.
2006-11-16 10:37:43 · answer #2 · answered by Erika J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as if she's rather immature and is unwilling to take your husband's rejection. You know what would be most effective? Let her see you and your husband laughing at her. I know it's cruel but it would be a bucket of icy cold water to her, and would be far more effective than anger. If you confront her angrily, she will see you as a jealous and more importantly a frightened woman. If she sees you laughing at her, it will cut her right down to size and she will see you as a woman who is confident and not worried at all about her, as it will be obvious you know there is no possibility of her succeeding.
Alternatively, perhaps you could get your husband or his boss to tell this silly girl to stop calling your house, saying that her frequent calls wake up the baby and you when you are trying to rest. It should be easy for your husband to portray himself as a concerned and protective husband and father, effectively shutting her out.
2006-11-16 11:08:31 · answer #3 · answered by Specsy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you know that there isn't really something going on with her and your husband?? I'm sorry, but why in the world would any woman; no matter what age...constantly harass some guy she works with of there wasn't something coming from his end?? Maybe you need to do play the"good cop/bad cop" thing and befriend her, just to find out what the heck is really going on! I would really do some investigation into this matter, if i were you...before automatically blaming her! Good luck....!
2006-11-16 10:41:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your husband WANTED to put a stop to it , he could, so he is the problem, not her. You're mad at the wrong person. She is just doing what her type does, flirts, etc. He could definitely stop this if he wanted to! Make sure HE does. Good Luck!!
2006-11-16 10:59:39 · answer #5 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not wait one more second to get her to STEP-OFF, your husband didn't seem to get the message through to her, She has NO business calling him all the time. Trust me if you don't put a stop to this, things can turn on you so fast that anything could happen!
2006-11-16 10:42:10 · answer #6 · answered by Shay 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, you poor woman,, your husband doesn't seem like he wants her to stop. He might be flattered with the attention this girl is giving him. If he isn't involved with her now, he might get involved soon. Keep your eyes and ears open for any change in your husband. Good luck!!
2006-11-16 10:53:20 · answer #7 · answered by angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
COME ON. your husband is not trying to get her to stop taking to him. Go to the restaurant talk to everyone there , find out you husband is not as Innocent as you think make a big deal out of it, get him fired.
2006-11-16 10:37:27 · answer #8 · answered by Johnny S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's EASY to fix, baby. Just have some well hung stud start leaving messages for you on your home phone. Stuff like, "Hey there, you looked really good in that sundress today, good enough to eat baby!" If hubby complains, just look at him all innocent and say, "what's wrong with that?"
2006-11-16 11:32:27 · answer #9 · answered by slick_pavement 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your so sure that your husband is not promoting a "secret " relationship with this girl ... then approach her and discuss this matter with her. How-ever, I would do a lot of research and if she is going the route of fooling around with him then put a stop to it and leave him.. Other way... talk to her and if she keeps it up then ...CLOCK her!!! Carl F. Heuer II
2006-11-16 10:46:23 · answer #10 · answered by carlheuerii 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋