My daughter is in 3rd grade. The first day of school she came home crying, that her teacher was mean. This went on for 3 days. I talked with the teacher....she is not human, she just sits and smiles and makes statments not related to my questions. I informed her that it was unacceptable for my child to cry about having to go to school. My daughter loved school and continued to excel until this class. The teachers behavior borders on harrassment. We met with the Principal, he said he would monitor the class. It is now the 3rd month of school and it is still going on. My daughter rarely cries about school now, she is just "tired of my teacher being mean!" Long story short- this teacher has had a rep of being a "mean" teacher for years!!! The principal will not let me pull her out of the class, or go to another school in the district. I can't take work off to monitor the class and I can't home school her. Any suggestions on how to get this teacher fired?
2006-11-16 10:24:38 · 20 answers · asked by UpsetParent 1 in Education & Reference ➔ Teaching
Wow! What a horrible situation for you and your little daughter to be in, however she's going to learn a very good lesson on standing up for yourself and having someone stand up for you.
You can do one of two things. First, the princepal cannot stop you from changing schools. If the other school accepts your daughter (this process takes a week or so), you want to speak directly with the principal, you can transfer her.
If you don't want to do this your other option is; first, document all dates meetings, outcome of meetings, instances of harassment, ect. Include direct quotes from your daughter, teacher, and principal. Address the school board of the situation and bring copies of documentation and be prepared to present it and have specific goals in mind of what you want to happen (e.g. formal apology from princepal and teacher to you and your daughter and transfer your daughter to another class, ect.). Once the board sees the documentation it will raise a red flag, meaning your next step is getting a lawyer.
If this doesn't work that's exactly what you're next step will be. Contact your family attorney and if necessary the police (depending on how bad the harassment is don't hesitate to do this and/or file a restraining order) and have them write a formal letter to the school board/district through certified mail ccing the teacher and school board. Make sure it's on the law offices' letterhead. Usually once this is done the school is willing to do anything you want so you don't sue. Follow the legal advice of an attorney and shop around a little to get a second opinion and prices of attorney ahead of meetings. Don't spend more than $200 looking for an attorney and if you're organized enough and depending on the situation you may find one that will work pro-bono (free).
I was in a similar situation when I was little, I was in dyalisis in 2nd grade and my teacher told the class if anyone played with me they would die, she thought it was a funny joke since I had an IV in my hand. An obvious lawsuit waiting to happen. Good luck and you and your family are in my prayers.
2006-11-16 11:15:31 · answer #1 · answered by 26433_ED 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
1. It is not your job to get the teacher fired because you can't have your way.
2. Because your child doesn't get along with her doesn't make her a "Bad" teacher.
3. A great many students excel in KG-2 grades and hit the wall in 3rd because it is in many instances the first time that the child's reading skills and study habits determine his/her academic performance. It is a tough transition for a lot of kids.
4. You have said what you "informed" the teacher of but what have you "informed" your child of? If your actions and behavior have been as you have described above, your child knows that there is conflict between you and the teacher and might just be playing you off against each other.
5. I would like to have things my way 100% of the time but I know that I can't and be successful in this world. I learned that @ about 3rd grade. The sooner your daughter learns it the better for the both of you.
My first teaching job 14 years ago i had a student day one who went home and said I was "mean" mom pulled her out/this happened again and again she ran out of classrooms and had to go to another school until she was put out of 3 schools because the"teachers didn't like her" ...the last time I saw her she was a drug addict and asked me for change outside of the grocery store.
I the mean teacher gave her my last cash 12.00
Tell your kid to man up
2006-11-16 11:25:00 · answer #2 · answered by sugarbritches 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Wow, that is a very unprofessional teacher on so many different levels. Firstly, teachers are not supposed to bring their personal lives to school, and they are especially not supposed to share it with their students or their parents. Some general things are okay, like if they have a dog or something, but talking about a breakup with their student's parent is out of bounds. Secondly, you don't go out with your student's parent. No explanation is really needed, you just don't do that. You should not have asked her to come out with you, because that's likely how she misinterpreted your intentions. She probably felt really foolish when she realized you weren't hitting on her and were just being nice, and so she reacted badly, but it is unacceptable to take out her frustration on your daughter. She needs to think about how her actions are affecting this innocent little girl, who probably wonders why her teacher suddenly hates her and is very confused and upset. So what you need to do is go in and talk to her. Explain that she misunderstood what you were doing, but admit that you were wrong and it was your mistake to act in that way. But also tell her firmly that no matter how she feels about you, she has no right to take it out on your daughter, and if she cannot handle having your daughter in her class and behave maturely and professionally as a teacher should and treat your daughter as every other child, you will talk to the principal. You don't have to tell the whole story to the principal if this happens; you can just say your daughter and you are having some issues with the teacher and could the principal please talk to her. If that doesn't work, you could have your daughter switch classes, but only as a last resort. Good luck!
2016-03-28 22:52:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The principal will not 'let' you pull her out of that class? He has jurisdiction over what happens in his school, but that's all. If he won't approve switching classes, enrol her in another school. Meanwhile, talk to other parents whose children are in that class and get together a petition if they agree with you. Then present the petition to a) the School Board b) the Teacher's Association c) the local newspaper/television station.
2006-11-16 10:40:55 · answer #4 · answered by old lady 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am a teacher and the only thing that I can suggest is getting a hold of the principle, and; if needed, the superintendent for a meeting with you, your spouse, your daughter, the teacher, and the school social worker. If the teacher is Tenured, then it will be EXTREMELY hard to get her fired. Unless she has abused your child,(and you can prove it) she will not be fired! Also, start documenting ever time your daughter comes home, and what happened that day. Bring it with you to the meeting. O, you can sit in on your daughters class if you really want. Hope this helps!
2006-11-16 10:33:01 · answer #5 · answered by dawn 1 · 3⤊ 1⤋
There is a book called "Bad Teachers: The Essential Guide for Concerned Parents" by Guy Strickland. This book will guide you step-by-step through the procedure for filing a complaint against a teacher and having either the situation resolved or your child removed from the class. My advice to you is to check out this book, read it, and keep a VERY detailed record of what your child says is happening in the class. You may need to take a family leave day from work to observe her class (this has to be pre-arranged) in order to accomplish this effectively.
2006-11-16 13:44:56 · answer #6 · answered by Jetgirly 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Teachers are unionized. Getting one fired is EXTREMELY difficult. There have been reported cases of teachers sexually molesting kids and still not being fired. (they were sent to work in a office by themselves everyday and do busy work until their contracts ran up) Your only choice would be to tell the principal that you are going to go to the school board if he doesn't allow your daughter to switch classes. Without any firm evidence of her doing something wrong, it's going to be hard to prove anything to the school board, but if you can prove that the teaching environment is causing problems with your daughters ability to learn then they may be more willing to get the principal to switch her classes.
Wow, sorry that was so long.
2006-11-16 10:29:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
ARGH! I HATE THOSE KIND OF TEACHERS! i had a teacher who had failed so many ids. it was like she picked a kid each year and she would tell the kid they never turned in something. bull!
talk to other parents and find out if anyone else has had a problem. ask all parents. the more the better. then, just keep badgering the principal until they change something.
warning- this may not work. i had a friend whose mom complained and she was denied being allowed to come back to thje school
2006-11-16 10:30:31 · answer #8 · answered by dover_luv 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
This is what i had to do. Sneak in and stand out side the door and watch what is going on yourself. I took a small hand held camera and i made a movie for the school board to see. All in all it took about 3 sneak ins to get all the footage i needed. I had no problem getting this guy fired once the school board saw what i had.
2006-11-16 10:48:04 · answer #9 · answered by Sarcastic Sid 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Get to know the other parents of children who are in the class. If they agree with you, get together and talk to the principal and/or write a petition. Numbers talk.
2006-11-16 10:27:58 · answer #10 · answered by clueless_nerd 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋