I want to help my brother but he wont listen to me what do i do?

Question

I love my brother to death but ever since he started dating this girl lets call her Jenny he has been so different, "jenny" bosses him around like a 2 year old and she'll take his money (like almost $300). He has broken up with her before but he keeps running back because he'll get what he wants from her. HOW CAN I TELL HIM THAT SHE IS THE WRONG GIRL FOR HIM AND THAT HE NEEDS TO GET OUT FOR REAL THIS TIME AND NOT GO RUNNING BACK FOR WHAT HE WANTS? Plus "Jenny" disrespects everyone in our home. What can i do to make him see the truth?

My brother also has a learing disability

Answer 1

That's going to be a tough one, but it's good for you to let him know how you feel about this leech he's dating. When he's available, have a sit down with your bro, tell him to keep his calm, and that the following words you'll utter are not meant to raise his ire in any way. Express your criticism of her (in a detailed, but not an overly emotional way) and see if he understands. Tell him that he is a good guy who deserves better, and there are great single ladies out there who would not suck him dry of money, etc..

He may or may not listen. But at least you gave it a shot.

Answer 2

Sorry, but you can't make him see anything. You can only offer your opinion when asked, otherwise, you're just pushing uphill and that's hard. He will have to get wise on his own, which might take him getting hurt or losing something (e.g. his money), but he'll be the better for it later, having learned a hard lesson from "Jenny".

Answer 3

If your family has talked to him about the issue and he won't get rid of her, then it's probably not going to happen :(

If you want to play dirty you could always get a bunch of people to say that she cheated on him. Set up a fake e-mail account and start e-mailing her as a man and try to lure her into having "inappropriate" conversations. Show him the chat logs, and see if that will change his mind.

I feel your pain, though :( My sister-in-law is a disgusting hag. My whole family hates her, but she's the mother of my nephew, so I have to be nice to her (or at least that's what my mom says. LOL)

Answer 4

Put out a hit on Jenny. I know a guy who can make it look like an accident, real professional like.

Answer 5

i think you should find a way to make jenny confess what she is doing and maybe try to interduce your brother to a new girl, one thats 110 times better than Jenny

Answer 6

It is something he has to figure out himself. If he feels this way about her, he may just ignore all your warnings about her.

Years ago, my sister was dating a guy that the family did not like because of the way he treated her. But she did not want to listen to us, she was in her own world. Eventually she realized what we were saying and ended the relationship.

Answer 7

unfortunately the best thing u can do is be there for him when he gets hurt, because that girl is bound to brake his heart. the more u gonna tell him to leave her, and how bad she is for him, the more he is going to try to prove u wrong, he will need to see it for himself.give it a time, dont pressurize him to much just talk to him how sad it makes to see him treated like that, and that he deserves someone who will respect him, and that the true relationship gives much more than it takes.

Answer 8

this is so common. just leave your brother and jenny alone, one day he will learn. but just make sure you voice your opinion about miss jenny so you can say i told you so.

Answer 9

He is definitely being taken advantage of (she knows he has a learning disability). Why not try to introduce him to someone who cares?

Answer 10

Sad to say, but, there is nothing you can do. He will have to learn the hard way and you will have to just watch him do it that way. Painful I know. You CANNOT help someone who doesn't believe they need help.